Monday, October 16, 2017

Voices of Experience: My Final Blog

The end of one chapter is just the beginning of another. Read on ... The best part is always yet to come. ~ Susan Gale

Michelle Midgett was 31 years old when she lost Joey, her husband of seven years and father of their four children. She writes that since her husband died she has learned a lot about herself and life. "I choose to keep fighting and my goal is to help others find that fire inside them and keep moving." The following essay appeared originally on the Soaring Spirits International blog, and is reprinted here with Michelle's permission.

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, October 8 - October 14, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Palliative Care at the Vatican, http://j.mp/2yiQaCd « HuffPost

What the Dying Need from Us, http://j.mp/2ylwYnv « Hospicare

How I Encouraged My Dad to Start Hospice 'Early,' http://j.mp/2yjUd0S « Life Matters Media

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Understanding and Managing Grief, October 8 - October 14, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

In grief: A Glimmer of Hope, http://j.mp/2ghEPf9 « HuffPost

What *should* you say when someone dies? http://j.mp/2ggveVK « Refuge In Grief

7 Years Later, http://j.mp/2fWHQxD « The Grief Toolbox

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Coping with Pet Loss, October 8 - October 14, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grieving for a pet can take many forms and duration can vary, vet says, http://j.mp/2gf1t7U « Kansas State University

I've been there: Pet grief support comes to Philly, http://bit.ly/2yj0xG3 « Philadelphia Inquirer

Pet grief: When you lose your most faithful friend, http://j.mp/2ga6Jtd « Daily Mail Online

Monday, October 9, 2017

Loving A Pet Too Much: When Bonding May Be Unhealthy

There is such a thing as having too much of a good thing.  ~ Michelle Gomez

A reader writes: In my opinion there are just too many people around the world who love their pets more than they love people. Do you have any more detailed information\articles outlining signs of unhealthy relationships with pets? Or maybe you can point me in the right direction.

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, October 1 - October 7, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

NHPCO Report: Hospice patients with short period of service continues to be a concern, http://j.mp/2fQeCjQ « Markets Insider

Book Review: "Life After the Diagnosis" by Dr. Steven Z. Pantilat, http://j.mp/2fO9TyY « Seven Ponds Blog

Stunning Poem on Living with Depression: "Having It Out with Melancholy," http://j.mp/2hHjsE7 « Brain Pickings

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Understanding and Managing Grief, October 1 - October 7, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Resources for emotional trauma support for you and people you love, http://j.mp/2fR0CGx « Danielle Laporte

Megan Devine Interview: The Howl at the Center of Grief, http://j.mp/2hQHE73 « Audio Boom

Dogs Comfort The Bereaved in Funeral Homes, http://j.mp/2fL2KzK « Seven Ponds Blog

Monday, October 2, 2017

In Grief: Infant’s Death Threatens A Marriage

New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.  ~ Lao Tzu

A reader writes: My wife and I just lost our daughter. She was only 26 days old at the time. I was stationed overseas the whole time, but was home for the death. My wife and I got married shortly after our daughter’s death. Then I returned to Afghanistan to finish my tour. My wife now wants an annulment on our marriage and has moved to a different city. She still says she wants a relationship with me, just wants us to start over. Is this normal behavior?

Sunday, October 1, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, September 24 - September 30, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Don't let new Nurse Ratched show be an American Horror Story for real nurses! http://j.mp/2fyJqpe « Change.org

Physicians have the power to save our health care system, http://j.mp/2fyrX0e « Kevin MD

Five Years Sober, http://j.mp/2fwF7L4 « Musings of a Distractible Mind

Understanding and Managing Grief, September 24 - September 30

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Living in the Shadow of a Child’s Death, http://j.mp/2fzDw78 « Alive in Memory

Why it's OK to use social media to mourn, http://j.mp/2hzq04e « Mashable

Widowhood: The Club Nobody Wants to Join, http://j.mp/2hsgrrp « HuffPost

Monday, September 25, 2017

In Grief: When A Friend Pulls Away

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and be understood.  ~ Seneca

A reader writes: I am hoping you can advise me what to do. I have a very dear and close friend whose brother died of suicide a month ago. This was his only sibling. He had to go identify the body and had to come home to a hysterical wife and barely functioning parents. As far as I know he has cried very little if at all. He and I haven't been able to discuss anything at all. My husband and I did everything we could to help the family with things. The problem is now though he will not call anymore and he has pulled away emotionally. He is saying things to me that I would say are hurtful. I have been trying to keep in touch with him, but now he says we are not compatible. I really want to help him through this very tough time. Do I step back and give him space or what do I do??? I am hoping you can give me some guidance. Thank you.

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, September 17 - September 23, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How to Use Death Insurance to Trick Death, http://j.mp/2hoJYlN « Open to Hope

YouTube Series "Molly's Movement" Shows What Coping with Dementia Looks Like, http://j.mp/2hp8QGp « Seven Ponds Blog

One Last Visit to See My Patient, http://j.mp/2hml0zO « The New York Times

Understanding and Managing Grief, September 17 - September 23, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Helping Others to Help Yourself, http://j.mp/2hn3gI4 « Grieve Well

5 Ways Grieving Kids Changed My Own Relationship with Loss, http://j.mp/2hlPju5 « Modern Loss

How to Cope with Anticipatory Grief and Ambiguous Loss, http://j.mp/2hlNjhy « Next Avenue

Monday, September 18, 2017

Voices of Experience: Always

Stand Up Album - Christina Holmes
When you're happy, you enjoy the music. But, when you're sad, you understand the lyrics.  ~ Frank Ocean

Christina Holmes is a singer, songwriter, musician and producer who has recently released her sophomore album, Stand Up, under her label, Cove House Records. The original soundtrack contains ten new songs written by Christina, and her album serves as a call for social justice and change. She has been creating her own music for years, but when her father succumbed to kidney disease and died of kidney failure, she took two years of finding her way through grief before she felt able to show her musical soul again.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, September 10 - September 16, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Staying Calm in a Hurricane - Guided Imagery Do's and Don'ts, http://j.mp/2xnlXRX « Health Journeys

Art from the Heart - the role of art therapy in palliative care, http://j.mp/2flbi0s « Alberta Hospice Palliative Care Association

Beautiful: Seventysomething: When it's time to stop fixing life's holes, http://j.mp/2eRMJY5 « PBS NewsHour

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Understanding and Managing Grief, September 10 - September 16, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Yes, You Can Measure Grief And Here’s How, http://j.mp/2h9xnT9 « Grieve Well

Remembering the 'Lasts,' http://j.mp/2eZW8wV « Open to Hope

I Can't Live Without You, http://j.mp/2eZSGSZ « Mourning Coffee for the Mourning Soul

Coping with Pet Loss, September 10 - September 16, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

What does pet care have to do with human hospice? http://j.mp/2fk7GeT « Healthy Waterloo Region

Pet Euthanasia: When Is It Time to Say Goodbye? http://j.mp/2xgDUBI « Grief Healing

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Monday, September 11, 2017

Pet Euthanasia: When Is It Time to Say Goodbye?

Deep down we somehow always knew this journey would end. We knew that if we gave our hearts they would be broken. But give them we must for it is all they ask in return. When the time comes, and the road curves ahead to a place we cannot see, we give one final gift and let them run on ahead — young and whole once more. ~ Crystal Ward Kent

A reader writes: Can I ask for your advice? I’m sure the answer lies within me, not you, but maybe you can help.

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, September 3 - September 9, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Guided Imagery Now On An "Approved for Use" List at the VHA, http://j.mp/2eLTrih « Health Journeys

Brilliant: Honor the person and the work with "The Pause," http://j.mp/2eKAk8d « Jonathan Bartels on Vimeo

How Can Palliative Care Improve Quality of Life? http://j.mp/2w3MKOJ « Seven Ponds Blog

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Understanding and Managing Grief, September 3 - September 9, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Are you grieving "for" a not so nice person? See "What's In A Preposition? A Grammar for Grieving," http://j.mp/2xcgwFv « Offbeat Compassion

Finding Hope Again, http://j.mp/2eMkcDo « The Grief Toolbox

Romance May Not Be the Answer after Loss, http://j.mp/2eM81Xi « Second Firsts

Coping with Pet Loss, September 3 - September 9, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Sunday, September 10 is National Pet Memorial Day, http://j.mp/1649Pjw « Grief Healing

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Monday, September 4, 2017

In Grief: When Counseling Isn’t Helping

If there is no struggle, there is no progress.  ~ Frederick Douglas

A reader writes: Well it seems I am not doing any better now since both my parents have died. And I have no doubt that this is hurting me more than anyone else in the family. My Mom and I lived together and she knew me better than all of them and I knew her better than all of them. The only person in my family that probably knew my Mom as well as I did was my Dad.

But anyway, I just can't make any progress and feel I am in an endless pit of grief, mourning, sorrow, and despair. 
Tonight I asked God to just take me. I don't want to be here anymore. I am sick of it and sick of it ALL!

Sunday, September 3, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, August 27 - September 2, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Palliative Care Can Support You At Diagnosis, http://j.mp/2vQIa6m « Get Palliative Care

Stop telling people they're fighters who will 'beat' terminal illness, http://j.mp/2wD8LIL « USA Today

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Understanding and Managing Grief, August 27 - September 2, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grieving May Be Lonely (But it Doesn't Have to Be), http://j.mp/2vVmAhg « Open to Hope

Healing Grief through the Gift of Volunteering, http://bit.ly/hO4In3 « Grief Healing

Attachment Is the Source of All Suffering, http://j.mp/2wmizFZ « Psychology Today

Coping with Pet Loss, August 27 - September 2, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

In-home pet hospice eases pain for animals and their people, http://j.mp/2wCRMq4  « QCOnline.com

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Monday, August 28, 2017

Voices of Experience: A Reflection on Grief and Mourning

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Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.  ~ Henry Van Dyke

As Senior Director of the Jewish Hospice and Chaplaincy Network, Rabbi Joseph H. Krakoff has worked for many years with adults and children wrestling with death, grief and remembrance. While in Rabbinical School at the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York City, he developed a thought-provoking text to share with families, guiding them through honest conversations about the legacy and values that remain even as someone dearly loved has died.

Sunday, August 27, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, August 20 - August 26, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How Do We Improve Communication About Palliative Care? http://j.mp/2wdiZNj « SevenPonds Blog

10 Sanity-Saving Long Distance Caregiving Tips, http://j.mp/2wv3vqp « Caring.com

Active vs. Passive: a Key Difference between Mindfulness and Guided Imagery, http://j.mp/2w8HmLU « Health Journeys

Understanding and Managing Grief, August 20 - August 26, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

“Closure” by Kelly Farley, http://j.mp/2wxsWb5 « Grieving Dads

Grief Healing Discussion Groups is part of Option B's Group Directory and follows its community guidelines, http://j.mp/2w8lNLF « Option B

The Hollow Days, http://j.mp/2wrrmaw «Widower's Grief

Coping with Pet Loss, August 20 - August 26, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Veterinary social work opens outlet for grief, stress of pet loss, http://j.mp/2wrAWdw  « Business Mirror 

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Monday, August 21, 2017

In Grief: When Offers to Help Are Rejected

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There is but one freedom. To put oneself right with death. After that, everything is possible. I cannot force you to believe in God. Believing in God amounts to coming to terms with death. When you have accepted death, the problem of God will be solvedand not the reverse.  ~ Albert Camus

A reader writes: My very wonderful aunt who has done much to nurture me as I was growing up, has suffered a huge loss in her life. Her husband of 49 years died three months ago from complications from heart disease. My husband is a minister, I have read a lot about grieving and the different stages of grieving, I have suffered the loss of my father 9 years ago from a long illness, but I have not been prepared for the devastating grief and crying that my aunt is experiencing. I feel helpless to help her.

Sunday, August 20, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, August 13 - August 19, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Nurses share a side to their profession that most people don't see, http://j.mp/2vP3qeC « Business Insider

12 tips for giving patients bad news, http://j.mp/2vOUnKG « Kevin MD

End-of-life advice: More than 500,000 chat on Medicare’s dime, http://j.mp/2vCf8Jd « USA Today

Understanding and Managing Grief, August 13 - August 19, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Greatest Fears of Grief, http://j.mp/2vMDdNF « GriefMinisterdotcom

When the 'U' Word Is Missing, Grievers Suffer, http://j.mp/2w5TwHR « Stunned By Grief

Do You Really Never Get Over Losing A Child? http://j.mp/2vGUS9y « Grieve Well

Coping with Pet Loss, August 13 - August 19, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Pet Hospice: Why You Should Consider It, http://j.mp/2vPpN3s  « Pet MD

Children and Pet Loss: Following Their Lead, http://j.mp/2vV8gtj « Grief Healing

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Monday, August 14, 2017

Children and Pet Loss: Following Their Lead

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The moment I decided to follow instead of lead, I discovered the joys of becoming a part of a small child's world.  ~ Janet Gonzalez-Mena

A reader writes: I wrote to you earlier about the death of our dog -- our wonderful and loving companion of 15 years -- as we needed some poetry and appropriate messages to read at the Memorial Service we were planning when we buried her remains in our yard. You were kind enough to refer us to your Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers page, and I thank you so much for your words of comfort. I also took the time to read the articles you suggested, which soothed my sad and heavy heart.

I wrote to you again when I needed to tell my 5-year-old granddaughter what happened to Samantha. She knew our dog was old and tired, but she wasn't around when Samantha was euthanized.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Grief Healing Notified of HONcode Certification!

I am pleased to report that both the Grief Healing Blog and the Grief Healing Discussion Groups Web sites continue to be fully compliant with Health on the Net Foundation’s HONcode. We've recently been notified that both sites are HONcode-certified, which entitles us to display the HONcode seal on the sites’ home pages for the following year.

Health On the Net (HON) was founded to encourage the dissemination of quality health information for patients and professionals, and to facilitate access to the latest and most relevant medical data through the use of the Internet. The Health On the Net (HON) Foundation is a non-governmental organization, internationally known for its pioneering work in the field of health information ethics, notably for the establishment of its code of ethical conduct, the HONcode—the oldest and most trusted code for medical and health-related information available on the Internet.

Caregiving and Hospice, August 6 - August 12, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Thinking About Dying, Even When The Doctor Has No Time For It, http://j.mp/2vy0hQi « WBUR CommonHealth

How the show 13 Reasons Why can help you in the exam room, http://j.mp/2vMmv3h « Kevin MD

Chemo side effects can destroy quality of life, http://j.mp/2vMmKM1 « Daily Mail Online

Understanding and Managing Grief, August 6 - August 12, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

A letter to … the kind stranger who shared her grief with me, http://j.mp/2vPqbSb «The Guardian

How to talk about grief in the workplace, according to a therapist, http://j.mp/2vLW3a3 « Ladders

Why Grief Is A Series of Contractions and Expansions, http://j.mp/2usodTo  « Tricycle

Coping with Pet Loss, August 6 - August 12, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The joy, the grief, the pain: What I now understand about losing a pet, http://j.mp/2vMtbP7 « Petoskey News

How a Pet Hospice Vet Can Help Your Senior Dog, http://bit.ly/2otGHR9 « Dogster

Death of a household pet signals the end of an era, http://j.mp/2vuzjuY « Stuff

Monday, August 7, 2017

Voices of Experience: Why Self-Pity May Be Unjustified--And Unhelpful

Pure misery is a luxury one never learns to enjoy. ~ Rita Dove

Mark Henricks is a freelance journalist and musician and father of three children, including Brady Nathaniel Henricks, who died October 2, 2016 of suicide at age 16. Since losing his youngest child and only son, Mark has studied the grief research literature, searching for evidence-based bereavement coping strategies. In his effort to share with others what he has learned, he writes about these and related topics on his blog Grieve Well. The following post originally appeared there and is reprinted here with his permission.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 30 - August 5, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Fearing Hospice, http://j.mp/2uSxvt1 « Hospice Times

Medical Ethics: In The Charlie Gard Case, Listen To The Nurses, http://j.mp/2uQCJFT « CommonHealth

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Understanding and Managing Grief, July 30 - August 5, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

'Zero Suicide': A Bold Mental-Health Initiative,  http://j.mp/2v5Yphg « The Atlantic

In Grief: When A Loved One Shares Thoughts of Suicide, http://j.mp/2vaZuHj « Grief Healing

What To Do If You Don't Know What To Do After Loss, http://j.mp/2uOovVL « The Grief Toolbox

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Monday, July 31, 2017

In Grief: When A Loved One Shares Thoughts of Suicide

When a person says that he or she is thinking about suicide, you must always take the comments seriously. Assuming that the person is only seeking attention is a very serious, and potentially disastrous, error.  ~ Kevin Caruso

A reader writes: I just had a conversation with my father who is constantly talking suicide. He even gave me a date of his death - my mother's birthday. It is his revenge to everyone - mostly to mom who left because of his drinking and adultery. What am I supposed to tell him? My heart breaks, especially because I am here in this country, and my father is far away overseas. So I would not be able to even attend his funeral, as horrible as it sounds. Can you advise me on how I can cope?

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 23 - July 29, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

8 Things to Do When You First Learn Your Loved One Has Alzheimer's, http://j.mp/2uKQd5 « Caring.com

For anyone who is caring for or has ever cared for anyone. Thanks to Gillette for this exquisite video on caregiving, http://j.mp/2uJTRgi « YouTube

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Understanding and Managing Grief, July 23 - July 29, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Struggling with Grief? You Need Not Struggle Alone, http://j.mp/2uJT0wl « Self Healing Expressions

Reject the 'J' Word that Devastates Grievers, http://j.mp/2v6dr9c « Stunned By Grief

Grief Identity Crisis: Who are we now? http://j.mp/2v4DZYp « The Grief Toolbox

Monday, July 24, 2017

Teen Grief Following a Fatal Accident

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Guilt is to the spirit what pain is to the body.  ~ Elder David A. Bednar

A reader writes: My niece, nephew and my nephew’s girlfriend were in a car accident four weeks ago, and my nephew was the driver. Another car cut him off and he hit a concrete divider. His car flipped over a couple of times and his girlfriend was killed instantly. My nephew is not handling this well at all. How can I help him deal with his grief, or perhaps you can help with contacts with other individuals who have been through the same or similar loss. My nephew is 17 and his girlfriend was 17 also. Any help, information or contacts you can provide would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Sunday, July 23, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 16 - July 22, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Health reform everybody could love, http://j.mp/2vsz15b « Kevin MD

Opt-out Organ Donation Saves Lives, http://j.mp/2uHuWML « Seven Ponds

Cancer Doesn't Choose Who Survives Based On How Hard Someone Fights, http://j.mp/2vrYmw0  « HuffPost

Understanding and Managing Grief, July 16 - July 22, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Online Grief Course will be relaunched Fall 2017 Due to Popular Demand, http://j.mp/2vtpxXx « Self-Healing Expressions

Help! My Sister Keeps Posting Photos of Our Dead Father (and Tagging Me) on Social Media, http://j.mp/2vssqaG « Modern Loss

Breaking and Mending 11 Years Later... http://j.mp/2vsfAt8 « Christina Rasmussen

Coping with Pet Loss, July 16 - July 22, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How a Pet Hospice Vet Can Help Your Senior Dog, http://bit.ly/2otGHR9 « Dogster

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Monday, July 17, 2017

In Grief: Can I Do This By Myself?

If I think of the real work of grief as doing whatever I can to keep my heart open, to feel and to face every stitch of both pain and love, without somehow abandoning myself in the process, well – that’s “work” I can get behind. That’s work I understand.  ~ Megan Devine

A reader writes: I have only talked to you a couple of times and I am hoping that you can help me out. I am feeling so lost and empty right now that I just want to get in bed and pull the covers over my head, hide and cry. I know that you will say that is normal but I am 32 years old and have never had to deal with the loss of someone. For my first to be my mom, when we used to talk all the time and spend a lot of time together, and for her to leave me—I am so hurt and lost and misplaced. I am hurting so bad. I hate reading books. I get so side-tracked that it does not stick, and the thought of going to a counselor? No thanks. The last one I went to made me feel like I was wasting his time and offered no advice. I used to be so full of life and always had a smile on my face and now nothing.

Sunday, July 16, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 9 - July 15, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

'Are you saying I'm dying?' Training doctors to speak frankly about death, http://j.mp/2uoDCat « STAT

Life After the Diagnosis: A Podcast with Steve Pantilat, http://j.mp/2vkMr2f « GeriPal

Medicare4All won't fix the problem, http://j.mp/2uk3Af0 « Kevin MD

Understanding and Managing Grief, July 9 - July 15, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Loneliness: 5 “Don’ts” If You’re Feeling Lonely After Loss,  http://j.mp/2unzHuG « The Grief Toolbox

Terrific interview: Children and Grief, http://j.mp/2unjSDV « Jewel 92 FM

Review: "Bearing the Unbearable" by Joanne Cacciatore, Ph.D., http://j.mp/2vl9cTC « Seven Ponds Blog

Monday, July 10, 2017

Voices of Experience: The Wisdom of a 5-Year Old Picking Carrots

Credit: Dylan Parker
By Mary Beth Beck-Henderson

You can bury a lot of troubles digging in the dirt. ~ Anonymous

Mary Beth and her husband John had been married for nearly 24 years before he succumbed to complications of a superior mesenteric artery (SMA) aneurysm on November 22, 2016. They have a son who is now 20 years old and in college. Mary Beth has worked with families as a social worker and family educator for over 26 years. Acknowledging that she is "always looking for ways to make meaning out of all of this," she uses writing as a tool for healing grief, and hopes that the journal she is keeping may become a book one day. The following essay is reprinted here with her permission.

Sunday, July 9, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 2 - July 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Cruising, sharing and learning as a hospice volunteer, http://j.mp/2uPhMcW « Coastal View

You can’t always get what you want…  http://j.mp/2uLkpwp « The Fairytale and the Abyss

Palliative Care Patient Education Handouts, http://j.mp/1GT7ygX « Get Palliative Care

Understanding and Managing Grief, July 2 - July 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

When Sobriety Meets Grief (and grief meets sobriety), http://j.mp/2uQ6o0y « What's Your Grief?

When your dearly departed loved one was a bit of a devil, http://j.mp/2uPzPzW « The Fresno Bee

Waters of the New Normal: Developing Resilience After Son's Suicide, http://j.mp/2tR4i3l « Michelle Jarvie

Coping with Pet Loss, July 2 - July 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

What to Do When Your Dog is Lost, http://j.mp/2uLfwnp « TruDog®

Grief Healing: Pet Loss: When Guilt Goes Unresolved, http://j.mp/2uC5oNm « Grief Healing

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Monday, July 3, 2017

Pet Loss: When Guilt Goes Unresolved

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Dealing with guilt is often thought of as the “dark side” of grieving. In fact, if you were to write a play about grief, guilt would be your villain.  ~ Dana Durrance

A reader writes: First I want to say that my 10-year-old dog is the love of my life sent to me by God to care for. He is epileptic and I devote my life and time to helping him in every way. I dread the day he has to leave me. My prior dog I also loved, perhaps not as closely, but she lived to be almost 17 and I loved her. My problem is that many years ago I gave away a little dog to someone, even knowing in my heart it was not the best home, and I am pretty sure she got run over as they lived on a busy road. It is a long story, but what was I thinking?

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, June 25 - July 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Hospice Care: When is it Time? http://bit.ly/2kdbwu8 « EGAN Home Health and Hospice

Hospice Care about Re-Focusing Priorities, Not Giving Up - Alzheimer's, http://j.mp/2uikS9g « Health Central

From above: Geriatric social workers mean the world to children of aging parents, http://j.mp/2u8CG6P « Chicago Tribune

Understanding and Managing Grief, June 25 - July 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Why Grief Is A Series of Contractions and Expansions, http://j.mp/2usodTo « Tricycle

What one good doctor taught this mother about grief, http://j.mp/2tqYldm « Kevin MD

Delayed Grief: When Grief Gets Worse, http://j.mp/2tqhQm7 « The Grief Toolbox

Coping with Pet Loss, June 25 - July 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Companies now offering pet bereavement days for loss of 4-legged friends, http://j.mp/2usxMS5 « ABC 7 News Chicago

'I am an angel of death,' http://j.mp/2t5FVOZ « DVM 360

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Monday, June 26, 2017

In Grief: Family Disagreements Regarding Funerals

I think the funeral, done right, is vital to the healing of broken hearts.  ~ Doug Manning

A reader writes: I recently located your website and wanted to inquire about your experiences. I am sure in your profession you have seen a variety of ways that people deal with grief differently. How often have you come across a family member who disagrees with how the other is handling their grief? Specifically, when there are disagreements whether someone should view a body or attend a funeral?

Sunday, June 25, 2017

Understanding and Managing Grief, June 18 - June 24, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

 Lovely! Nancy Sharp on helping children remember their deceased father: What does it mean to love when you can't remember? http://j.mp/2tYAf6y « Option B

Megan Devine on grief work and how we can carry what can't be fixed, http://j.mp/2tYk898 « Raven Radio

Therapy dogs in funeral homes help mourners process, http://j.mp/2sZci1V «TODAY

Monday, June 19, 2017

In Grief: Helping Another While Coping With My Own Loss

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A reader writes: I really need some help. I am at a loss with things right now. Here is my issue. My partner’s dad is dying. He was hospitalized two weeks ago and put on hospice by the advice of his doctor. He has Alzheimer’s; his life is over and he is hanging on by a string. I am still mourning the death of my mother four months ago, and now here I am with my partner and his family as they are going through this themselves.

Sunday, June 18, 2017

Understanding and Managing Grief, June 11 - June 17, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Heidi Horsley on Sibling Loss: "Finding Hope and Transforming My Life,” http://j.mp/2tz25Gu « OptionB

A Funeral Sermon for My Friend Who Committed Suicide, http://j.mp/2sy4nIG « CCC Discover

Coping with Grief on Father’s Day: Selected Resources, http://j.mp/1tlWtPh « Grief Healing

Coping with Pet Loss, June 11 - June 17, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Actor Tom Hardy's Emotional Tribute to Dog, http://j.mp/2tevHsv « TruDog®

When a Pet Dies, Helping Children Through the ‘Worst Day of Their Lives,’ http://j.mp/2tb86bY « The New York Times

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Monday, June 12, 2017

In Grief: Death of a Possibility

Nothing is more sad than the death of an illusion.  ~ Arthur Koestler

A reader writes: My dad has been deceased for two years, and I am just coming to grips with the fact that he is really gone. It seems like only yesterday I got the phone call that changed my life forever.

My dad and I were never really close. His traumatic childhood had left him in a 24/7 dream world, and my parents divorced when I was about 4 years of age. My dad was a very sick man with schizophrenia and alcoholism. My mom left him when he became physically abusive, and throughout my childhood I met with him maybe five times. I have since forgiven him for what he did in the past to my mom and me, as he was sick and could not control his actions or words.

Sunday, June 11, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, June 4 - June 10, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

‘How long have I got?’: Why many cancer patients don’t have answers, http://j.mp/2t5PNoM « USA Today

If I Can't Speak For Myself...  http://bit.ly/2rQOcnb  Barbara Karnes RN

When a Loved Chooses to Stop Treatment, http://bit.ly/2s9PiwX « Seven Ponds Blog

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Understanding and Managing Grief, June 4 - June 10, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

It's hard to articulate grief after a suicide – but we still need support, http://bit.ly/2s4W9rh  « The Guardian

Powerful: The Gifts We Give, The Gifts We Are, http://bit.ly/2s4ZmqB « On Being

Finding the Strength You Need, http://bit.ly/2r18Obr « Open to Hope

Coping with Pet Loss, June 4 - June 10, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Euthanasia Outside of the Veterinary Hospital, http://bit.ly/2qXF5iG « Spot Speaks 

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Monday, June 5, 2017

Voices of Experience: Tips to Make Your Way through Grief

You are never really prepared for grief and you can't truly understand it unless you've been there. ~ Anonymous

Kay Oxford is a retired office manager and bookkeeper who lives in the mountains of the northwestern United States with her dog Arlie and Kitty the cat. Since the sudden and unexpected loss of her beloved husband George, who died of a heart attack in 2005, Kay has been active in online grief forums for more than a decade. She also facilitates the in-person grief support group she started recently in her community. Here she shares some of the suggestions she has found to be useful in navigating her own grief journey:

Sunday, June 4, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 28 - June 3, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

I Will Help You: Palliative Care Support Before Hospice, http://bit.ly/2qyUUwU « Elaine Mansfield

New resources from Alzheimer's Association for primary care providers, http://bit.ly/2sbe3p7 « ehospice USA

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Understanding and Managing Grief, May 28 - June 3, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grief Healing: Finding a Place of Hope - Interview, http://bit.ly/2rKV4p4 « Open To Hope

The Surprising Truth About Ritual and Grief, http://bit.ly/2rv88Ov « What's Your Grief?

Traumatic Loss: Needing To View The Body, http://bit.ly/2rfaGjq « Grief Healing

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Monday, May 29, 2017

Traumatic Loss: Needing To View The Body

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People who suddenly lose a spouse or a child to murder, suicide or an accident often benefit from being allowed to see the dead person’s body, even if it’s bruised or starting to decompose, a new investigation finds.  ~ Science News

A reader writes: I have enrolled in your online grief course and it is a wonderful help. I have spent hours reading over your articles and books, and I am just about to order another book for my son on the death of a sibling.

I don’t know if you remember me, but you helped me in a massive way last June. You gave me instant advice regarding my son who had gone missing in the sea following a climbing accident.

Sunday, May 28, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 21 - May 27, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Don't wait: Now's the time to discuss end-of-life care https://usat.ly/2r71Lyq « USA Today

Hospice care doesn't have to start at the end of life, http://bit.ly/2qpJNq1 « WRAL.com

What It Takes To Be A Hospice Nurse, http://bit.ly/2qhHLfm « Barbara Karnes, RN

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 21 - May 27, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Never Long Enough - A new book of comfort and hope amidst grief and loss, http://bit.ly/2rZjdFr « Read The Spirit

The Long Game After Loss, http://bit.ly/2rGMh7h « Christina Rasmussen

When We Blame Ourselves, http://bit.ly/2s3v7Nt « The Grief Toolbox

Monday, May 22, 2017

In Grief: Needing to Tell The Story

A reader writes: I feel like I am losing it. Both my mother and my sister were killed in an auto accident two months ago. I find myself talking about it over and over again, to anyone who will listen. But no matter how many times I tell the story, I can’t seem to wrap my mind around it. I am trying to believe that it really did happen, because at this moment in time, I really cannot believe it myself.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 14 - May 20, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

We're Bad at Death. Can We Talk? http://nyti.ms/2rEVqJV « The New York Times

Cancer Patients Might Be More Optimistic About Prognosis Than Their Doctors, http://bit.ly/2qGtp5h « Seven Ponds

Rebecca Sudore on Advance Care Planning: The Prepare Trial, http://bit.ly/2rzfDRg « GeriPal

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 14 - May 20, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Why we Need to Stop Saying, "I'm Sorry For Your Loss," http://bit.ly/2r4Bh3M « Elephant Journal

After A Loss, Learning to Be Happy Again, http://nyti.ms/2q2E1dB « The New York Times

Change Your Mind, Change the World, http://bit.ly/2pUt6H5 « Soaring Spirits International

Monday, May 15, 2017

Voices of Experience: You Know You’re Getting Better When…

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.  ~ Confucius

Laurie Burrows Grad is a food writer, television chef, and food journalist who transitioned to writing about grief when her husband Peter suddenly died on August 1, 2015. She has written over 65 blogs about being a widow on Huffington Post. The post below originally appeared on Thrive Global, the new site for Arianna Huffington, and is reprinted here with Laurie's permission. She is also the Editor-in-Chief for www.epicurus.com, one of the top food sites, and writes monthly blogs about cookware and cookbooks. In her personal life, Laurie is a philanthropist, who with her late husband Peter raised over $30 million for the Alzheimer’s Association in honor of her father, the late playwright Abe Burrows.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 7 - May 13, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Episode 1: No step entry, http://bit.ly/2pCT8JM « Nest for Life

After bowel cancer, I understand why people are tempted to reject treatment, http://ab.co/2pCXhhB « Science News

Facing Your Own Death: Can You Really Prepare Now? http://bit.ly/2pnqI6n « Seven Ponds Blog

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Understanding and Managing Grief, May 7 - May 13, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Remembering My Mom on Mother's Day, http://j.mp/JTwqmc « Grief Healing

A Hidden Grief on Mother's Day, http://bit.ly/2qd5Y5y « ACS Technologies Ministry Impact

Sharing Stories About Loss and Grief, http://bit.ly/2pJ7BVa « Canadian Virtual Hospice

Monday, May 8, 2017

In Grief: Daughters Mourning Mothers

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When a mother dies, a daughter’s mourning never completely ends. ~ Hope Edelman

A reader writes: Today I visited your site for the first time and I have decided to share something I wrote with you. This fall I lost my mother less than a week before my son's wedding. I have been grieving for both my empty nest (3 adult children have moved on with their lives) along with the loss of my mother. Each time I feel lonely or sad because my kids have grown and left the nest, I feel deep pain for having caused my mother the same grief. Relationships with parents are complicated; expectations, irritations, personality quirks, being a 47 year old daughter, etc. Along with the emotional connectedness we had with one another, my grief includes loss for my mother as a friend.

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, April 30 - May 6, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Honoring Hospice Nurses: National Nurses Week, May 6 – May 12, http://bit.ly/mFIU0a « Grief Healing

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Understanding and Managing Grief, April 30 - May 6, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Sudden Loss: 5 Ways it Differs from Expected Loss, http://bit.ly/2pRHooo « The Grief Toolbox

Digitally Delivered Mental Health – The Revolution Is Here! http://bit.ly/2qMuoQa « Health Journeys

The Bigger Lesson From Facebook’s New Bereavement Leave Policy, http://bit.ly/2pKavtP « Fast Company

Coping with Pet Loss, April 30 - May 6, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Pet hospice helps ease difficult days for animals and their humans, http://bit.ly/2pc9nOF « WGN-TV

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Monday, May 1, 2017

In Grief: Causing Accidental Death or Injury (CADI) to Another

Life is an adventure in forgiveness, the writer Norman Cousins once said, but few things come so hard as forgiving oneself.  ~ Todd Leopold

A reader writes: Three weeks ago I hit a pedestrian. Two days later he died. I am up and down, feeling guilt. Sometimes I try to act OK. My husband is very worried about me. I am going to a class on anxiety. It helps me understand what I am experiencing. But are there any online resources that deal with someone dying who is NOT a loved one, but rather actually a complete stranger and the ongoing guilt I feel about this?