Marty's Articles

Below are links to all the articles I've posted on this blog over the years, about caregiving, grief, loss. and transition. Note that at the base of each post, you'll find links to related resources (articles, books, websites, organizations). As a grief counselor who spends time every day searching for reliable and current information on the Internet, it has been my experience that, no matter the topic, it is likely that someone, somewhere has written and published something of value on that particular topic ~ or will do so after my own article is published on my blog. So no matter when I post an article, I am continually on the lookout, watching for resources that are related to the topic under discussion ~ and I am happy to share links to them with my readers. When you click on any of these links, you'll find useful material written not only by me, but also a rich assortment of resources offered by other authors as well. My posts are being updated regularly with links to additional resources ~ all in an effort to provide my readers with a vast assortment of current, valid and reliable information about caregiving, loss, grief and transition. Note that every article includes the date on which it was last modified.

A High School Student Asks: How to Deal with Grief

Acceptance: In Grief: Aversion To Thoughts of “Acceptance” And “Moving On”

Addiction: Mixing Grief With Alcohol: Will It Lead to Addiction?

Advance Directives

After Death Communication

After Death Communication: A List of Resources

After Death Communication, Continued

Ambiguous Loss: When Grief Threatens A Love Relationship

Ambiguous Loss: Mourning An Abusive Relationship: Suggested Resources

Ambiguous Loss: Unresolved Grief: When a Loved One Is Missing

“Am I Going Mad?” ~ Mystical Experiences in Grief 

Anger: Apologizing for Expressing the Anger of Grief

Anger: Is Anger One of the Stages of Grief?

Anger: In Grief: Acknowledging Jealousy and Anger

Anniversary Reactions: Grief Rituals Can Help on Valentine’s Day (or Any Special Day)

Anniversary Reactions: In Grief: Dreading The Anniversary Date Of a Loved One’s Death

Anniversary Reactions: Tips for Coping with Anniversary Reactions in Grief

Anticipatory Grief: Anticipating the Death of a Spouse

Anticipatory Grief: Anticipatory Grief and Mourning

Anticipatory Grief: Anticipatory Grief and Mourning: Suggested Resources

Anticipatory Grief: Should Our Dad Be Told That He’s Dying?

Anxiety: Anxiety Attacks in Grief: Tools for Coping

Are We Medicating Normal Grief?

Are You Reluctant to Seek Counseling for Grief?

Bereavement: Doing the Work of Grief

Betrayal, Fear of Separation and Unresolved Grief

Book Review, Alzheimer's: A Mother-Daughter Journey

Book Review, Sooner or Later: Restoring Sanity to Your End-of-Life Care

Caregiving: Caregiving After a Stroke: Suggested Resources

Caregiving: Caregiving In Serious Illness: 8 Ways You Can Help

Caregiving: Caregiving In Serious Illness: Suggested Resources

Caregiving: Caring Bridge: Creating a Network of Support Online

Caregiving: Coping with A Cancer Diagnosis: Suggested Resources

Caregiving: Helping Children Cope with a Parent’s Serious Illness

Caregiving: In Grief: After Caregiving Ends, Who Am I?

Caregiving: In Grief: "I Think I Killed My Mother"

Caregiving: Keeping the Secret of a Terminal Prognosis

Caregiving: Palliative Sedation for the Terminally Ill

Caregiving: Should Our Dad Be Told That He’s Dying?

Child Loss: Blogs (and Books) for Bereaved Parents

Child Loss: Child Loss: Supporting A Sibling in Grief

Child Loss: Does Child Loss Destroy a Marriage?

Child Loss: Mother Struggles to "Accept" the Death of Her Son


Child Loss: Mourning a Sister’s Only Child: “Where Do I Fit In?”

Child Loss: Silent Grief: Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Child Loss: Singing Their Song (Anna Huckabee Tull)

Child Loss: Surviving A Child’s Homicide

Child Loss: Traumatic Loss: Needing to Know the Details

Child Loss: Two Deposits in Heaven: Making Sense of Child Loss

Child Loss: When An Adult Child Dies: Resources for Bereaved Parents

Comparisons: Is Losing a Grandmother Easier Than Losing a Sister?

Comparisons: Is Pet Loss Comparable to Loss of A Loved One?

Comparisons: When Grief Seems Insignificant by Comparison

Complicated Grief: Mourning An Abusive Mother

Complicated Grief: What Is Complicated Grief? 

Consoling A Bereaved Parent, From A Distance

Coping with A Cancer Diagnosis: Suggested Resources

Coping with Cumulative Losses

Coping with Cumulative Losses: Personal vs. Professional

Coping with Traumatic Loss: Suggested Resources

In Grief: Coping with Multiple Losses

Coping with Overwhelming Loss

In Grief: Coping with STUGS

Coping with Sorrow in Grief

Custom Crafted Songs

Dating: In Grief: Finding New Love After The Death of A Spouse

Dating: In Grief: Brother's Dating Causes Family Conflict

Dating: In Grief: Family Resists Widow’s Readiness to Move Forward

Dating: In Grief: When Dating Is Complicated

Dating: In Grief: Is Dad Dating Too Soon after Mom's Death?

Dating: Is My Widowed Mother 'Moving On' Too Soon?

Dating: On Dating A Widower

Dating: On Dating A Widower: Is This Unresolved Grief?

Dating: Remarriage In Widowhood: How Soon Is Too Soon?

Death of a Parent: Negative Impact On A Couple’s Relationship

Deathbed Promises: Honoring a Mother's Dying Wish

Delayed Grief Goes Unresolved, Negatively Impacts Marriage

Delayed Grief: In Grief: Feeling Disconnected from Feeling Bad


Delayed Grief: Residual Grief: Father Loss In Early Childhood

Delayed Grief: When Delayed Grief Affects Work Performance

Delayed Grief: When We Don't Take Time to Mourn

Delayed Grief: Voices of Experience: Delayed Grief

Disability: Loss of a Dream: When A Baby Isn’t Perfect

Disenfranchised: Disenfranchised Grief: Mourning the Loss of A Stepson

Disenfranchised: Disenfranchised Grief: Mourning the Loss of a Dream

Disenfranchised: Disenfranchised Grief: Mourning the Loss of A Love Relationship

Disenfranchised: Disenfranchised Grief: When An Ex-Spouse Dies

Distance Counseling: What Is It, How Does It Work?

Divorce: Disenfranchised Grief: When An Ex-Spouse Dies

Divorce: Is Grief A Normal Reaction to Divorce?

Empowering Ability for Seniors and Persons with Disabilities

Explaining Death to A Toddler

Explaining Stillbirth to a Toddler

Facing Another Funeral, Without ‘Falling Apart’

Feeling Pressured to "Move On" in Grief

Finding A Place of Hope - Open to Hope Radio Interview

Finding Crying Time in Grief

Finding Grief Support That Is Right For You

Finding Meaning In Your Loss

Finding Reliable Grief Information and Support on the Internet

Finding Your Way through Grief: A Guide for the First Year

For Widows, Widowers and Single Parents See also Resources for Young Widow(er)s

Gender: How We Mourn: Understanding Our Differences

Grief and Mourning: History, Culture and Science

Grief and Politics


Grief and Resilience: Suggested Resources

Grief and Sexual Intimacy

Grief Bibliography

Grief Healing Notified of HONcode Certification!

Grief Healing: On Becoming A Grief Counselor

Grief Healing: Where Did You Get That Name?

Grief In the Second Year: Finding Your Way

Grief Rituals Can Help on Valentine’s Day (or Any Special Day)

Grief Songs: Music for a Grieving Heart

Grief Support Group: Should I Stay or Leave?

Grief Support Groups: What Are the Benefits?

Grief Support Online: An Invitation

Grief Support Online: What Are the Benefits? (Testimonials)

Grief Support: When Others Fail to Meet Our Expectations
Grief: Understanding The Process

Grief Triggers: In Grief: Coping with STUGs (Sudden Temporary Upsurges of Grief)

Guilt: Guilt and Regret Following the Death of a Friend

Guilt: Guilt and Regret in Grief

Guilt: Grief and The Burden of Guilt

Guilt: Guilt In The Wake of a Parent's Death

Guilt: In Grief: Coping with “Moment-of-Death Guilt”

Guilt: In Grief: "I Think I Killed My Mother"

Healing Grief through the Gift of Volunteering

Helping a Grieving Parent

Helping Another In Grief

Helping Another In Grief: In Grief: "Being There" for Someone in Mourning

Helping Another In Grief: In Grief: Mourning The Loss of A Friend

Helping Another In Grief: When Death Happens: Tips for Helping the Mourner 

Helping Children Cope with a Parent’s Serious Illness

Helping Grieving Children: A List of Suggested Resources

Homicide: Surviving A Child’s Homicide

Homicide: Surviving A Partner's Homicide

Hospice: Honoring Hospice Nurses, National Nurses Week, May 6 – May 12 

Hospice: Hospice Journey: Free Web Sites for Patients and Their Families

Hospice: How Do You Know When To Contact Hospice?

Hospice: Look to Your Hospice for Grief Support

Hospice: Me? Need a Hospice Bereavement Counselor? No Way! 

Hospice: When Hospice Care Fails A Family 

How We Mourn: Understanding Our Differences

In Grief: Acknowledging A Need for Support

In Grief: Acknowledging Jealousy and Anger

In Grief: After Caregiving Ends, Who Am I?

In Grief: Ashamed to Share Negative Feelings In An Online Forum

In Grief: Aversion To Thoughts of “Acceptance” And “Moving On”

In Grief: Being Open to Mourning

In Grief: "Being There" for Someone in Mourning

In Grief: Brother's Dating Causes Family Conflict

In Grief: Can I Do This By Myself?

In Grief: Causing Accidental Death or Injury (CADI) to Another

In Grief: College Student Considers Dropping Out of School

In Grief: Coming Apart At The Seams

In Grief: Coping with A Spouse's Deathbed Confession

In Grief: Coping with Childlessness

In Grief: Coping with Cumulative Losses

In Grief: Coping with Deaths "Close Enough to Hurt"

In Grief: Coping with Mom's Toxic Behavior

In Grief: Coping with “Moment-of-Death Guilt”

In Grief: Coping with Multiple Losses

In Grief: Coping with STUGS

In Grief: Daughters Mourning Mothers

In Grief: Death of A Possibility

In Grief: Difficulty Making Decisions

In Grief: Dreading The Anniversary Date Of a Loved One’s Death

In Grief: Family Disagreements Regarding Funerals

In Grief: Family Resists Widow’s Readiness to Move Forward

In Grief: Feeling Disconnected from Feeling Bad

In Grief: Feeling Guilty for Feeling Happy

In Grief: Feeling No Support In The Wake of Loss 

In Grief: Finding New Love After The Death of a Spouse

In Grief: Grateful for Grief Healing Discussion Groups

In Grief: Grandsons Affected by Traumatic Loss

In Grief: Helping Another While Coping With My Own Loss

In Grief: How Can The World Go On When My Loved One Has Died?

In Grief: How Long Will This Pain Go On?

In Grief: How We Mourn: Understanding Our Differences

In Grief: “I Fell In Love with My Patient”

In Grief: "I Think I Killed My Mother"

In Grief: Infant's Death Threatens A Marriage

In Grief: Is Anger One of the Stages of Grief?

In Grief: Lesbian Widow Finds No Support in Group

In Grief: Mourning The Loss of A Former Life

In Grief: Mourning The Loss of A Friend

In Grief: My Life Turned Upside Down

In Grief: Needing to Tell The Story

In Grief: Remembering Is An Active Process

In Grief: Responding to “How Are You?”

In Grief: Sifting and Sorting A Loved One's Personal Belongings

In Grief: Support Groups vs. Individual Counseling

In Grief: Supporting a Partner in Mourning
In Grief: Taking Time to Mourn

In Grief: Terminating A Counseling Relationship

In Grief: The Challenge of Cooking for One

In Grief: Trying To Forget

In Grief: Using Denial to Cope with Loss

In Grief: Using Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

In Grief: What to Do with Cremation Ashes?

In Grief: When A Friend Pulls Away

In Grief: When A Friend's Mourning Pattern Seems Strange

In Grief: When A Loved One Shares Thoughts of Suicide

In Grief: When Can I Stop The Process?

In Grief: When Credit Is Due

In Grief: When Counseling Isn't Helping

In Grief: When Dating Is Complicated

In Grief: When Faith and God Don't Make Sense

In Grief: When Offers to Help Are Rejected

In Grief: When Sorrow Is Delayed

In Grief: When Tears Won’t Come

In Grief: When The Pain of Loss Won't Go Away

In Grief: Worried About My Daughter

Insensitivity: In Grief: "Being There" for Someone in Mourning

Insensitivity: In Grief: Feeling Let Down By Closest Friends

Insensitivity: In Grief: How Much Can One Person Take?

Insensitivity: In Grief: Responding to “How Are You?”

Insensitivity: Grief Support: When Others Fail to Meet Our Expectations

Insensitivity: What Is Not Helpful to the Person In Mourning 

Insensitivity: What to Say (or Not) to A Person In Grief

Insensitivity: When Death Happens: Tips for Helping the Mourner 

Infertility: Grieving Children Who Will Never Be

Interview: A High School Student Asks: How to Deal with Grief

Interview: Are We Medicating Normal Grief?

Interview: Finding A Place of Hope

Is Grief A Normal Reaction to Divorce?

Keeping the Secret of a Terminal Prognosis

Light a Candle to Remember

Loneliness and Solitude in Grief

Look to Your Hospice for Grief Support

Loss of a Dream: When A Baby Isn’t Perfect

Me? Need a Hospice Bereavement Counselor? No Way!

Meditation: Helpful to Those Who Grieve

Memorial Day: Remembering The Fallen (And Those Who Love Them)

Mixing Grief With Alcohol: Will It Lead to Addiction?

Mother Loss: Mother Loss: A List of Suggested Resources

Mother Loss: College Student Considers Dropping Out of School

Mother Loss: Complicated Grief: Mourning An Abusive Mother

Mother Loss: In Grief: Daughters Mourning Mothers

Mother Loss: In Grief: Feeling No Support In The Wake of Loss 

Mother Loss: In Grief: "I Think I Killed My Mother"

Mother Loss: In Grief: Trying To Forget

Mother Loss: Mother Loss and the Grief of Abandonment


Mother Loss: Mother Loss: When Can I Think of Her Without Crying?

Mother Loss: Mourning An Abusive Relationship: Suggested Resources

Mother Loss: Parent Loss: Continuing Their Song

Mother Loss: Remembering My Mom on Mother’s Day

Mother Loss: Taking Time to Mourn a Mother's Death

Mother Loss: When Grief Is Mixed with Menopause

Mother Loss: When Mother’s Day Hurts: Selected Resources

Mother Loss: Years Later, Still Can't Cope

Mourning the Death of a Love Relationship: Suggested Resources

Myths: Common Myths and Misconceptions about Grief

Movie Recommendation: We Bought a Zoo

New Year Resolutions in Caregiving and Bereavement

Nightmares and Bad Dreams in Grief

On Grief, Healing and Resilience

Palliative Sedation for the Terminally Ill

Parent Loss: Consoling A Bereaved Parent, From A Distance

Parent Loss: Coping with “Moment-of-Death Guilt”

Parent Loss: Death of a Parent: Negative Impact On A Couple’s Relationship

Parent Loss: Guilt In The Wake of a Parent's Death

Parent Loss: Helping a Grieving Parent

Parent Loss: Parent Loss: Continuing Their Song

Parent Loss: Should Our Dad Be Told That He’s Dying?

Physical Reactions to Loss

Professional Certification Programs in Grief and Bereavement

PTSD Resources for Caregivers and Survivors, from Gift from Within

Recognizing Your Own Progress through Grief

Recommended Web Sites and Blogs

Religion and Spirituality in Grief

Remarriage In Widowhood: How Soon Is Too Soon?

Remembering My Mom on Mother’s Day 

Resources for Service Members and Their Families

Resources for Young Widow(er)s

Revival Redesign

Rituals: Grief Rituals Can Help on Valentine’s Day (or Any Special Day)

Secrets: Keeping the Secret of a Terminal Prognosis

Secrets: Should Our Dad Be Told That He’s Dying?

Seeing a Specialist in Grief Counseling: Does It Matter?

September 11: Coping with Aftershocks

Should Our Dad Be Told That He’s Dying?

Sibling Loss: Sibling Loss: When Grief Goes Unacknowledged 

Sibling Loss: Is Losing a Grandmother Easier Than Losing a Sister?

Sibling Loss: In Grief: When Tears Won’t Come

Sibling Loss: Surviving A Sibling's Fatal Accident

Silent Grief: Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Singing Their Song (Anna Huckabee Tull)

Sorting: In Grief: Sifting and Sorting A Loved One's Personal Belongings

Sorting: Tips on Sorting a Loved One’s Personal Belongings

Suicide: Explaining Suicide to a Child

Suicide: Grief Support for Survivors of Suicide Loss

Suicide: Surviving a Spouse’s Death by Suicide

Suicide: Thoughts of Suicide in Grief

Suicide: When A Loved One Shares Thoughts of Suicide

Support: Finding Grief Support That Is Right For You

Support: Grief Support Group: Should I Stay or Leave?

Support: Grief Support Groups: What Are the Benefits?

Support: Grief Support Online: An Invitation

Support: Grief Support Online: What Are the Benefits? (Testimonials)

Support: How You Can Help in Haiti

Support: In Grief: Support Groups vs. Individual Counseling

Support: Look to Your Hospice for Grief Support

Support: Starting A Support Group: Suggested Resources 

Support for Grieving College Students: How to Start a Local Chapter of Students of AMF

Surviving A Child’s Homicide

Surviving A Partner's Homicide

Surviving Spousal Loss: Financial Concerns in Widowhood Part 1

Surviving Spousal Loss: Financial Concerns in Widowhood Part 2

The Power of Remembering: My Grandfather's Pipe

Thin Threads: Focusing On Grief and Renewal

This Emotional Life: TV Series and Web Site

Tips for Coping with Anniversary Reactions in Grief

Tips for Coping with Anxiety Attacks in Grief

Tips for Coping with Disbelief and Denial in Grief

Tips for Coping with Sleeplessness in Grief

Tips for Helping Children and Adolescents in Grief

Tips on Sorting a Loved One’s Personal Belongings

To Move Or Not: Making Decisions In The Wake of Grief

Tragedy in Orlando, Collective Grief and Aftershocks of Loss

Transition after Loss: Tips for Navigating the Neutral Zone

Traumatic Loss: Coping with Traumatic Loss: Suggested Resources

Traumatic Loss: Needing to Know the Details

Traumatic Loss: Needing to View the Body

Traumatic Loss: Surviving A Child’s Homicide

Traumatic Loss: Surviving A Parent's Sudden, Accidental Death

Traumatic Loss: Surviving A Partner's Homicide

Traumatic Loss: Surviving A Sibling's Fatal Accident

Trouble Gaining Access to Medical Records?

Two Deposits in Heaven: Making Sense of Child Loss

Unresolved Grief: When a Loved One Is Missing

Using Art As a Path for Healing

Using Children's Books to Help with Grief

Using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) in Grief

Using Herbal Supplements in Grief

Using Medication To Manage Grief

Using Music to Help with Grief

Using Story to Explain Pet Loss to Children

Volunteering: Recognizing The Vital Role of Hospice Volunteers

Volunteering: Healing Grief through the Gift of Volunteering 

What Is Complicated Grief? 

What Is Not Helpful to the Person In Mourning 

What to Say (or Not) to A Person In Grief

When An Adult Child Dies: Resources for Bereaved Parents

When Death Happens: Tips for Helping the Mourner 

When Grief Seems Insignificant by Comparison

When Hospice Care Fails A Family 

When Words Matter: Tips on Writing A Condolence Letter 

Why? Why Me? Searching for Answers in Grief

Widowhood: Resources for Young Widow(er)s

Words of Comfort to the Person In Mourning 

Words to Avoid When Comforting the Bereaved 

Writing As a Healing Tool in Grief