Monday, September 16, 2013

Mourning An Abusive Relationship: Suggested Resources

[Reviewed and updated July 19, 2020]

As discussed in earlier posts, mourning the death of a relationship can be especially difficult when colored by a history of physical or emotional abuse. Whether the abuse stemmed from addiction, abandonment, mental illness, dementia or any number of other causes, it can complicate the grief process ~ unless and until it is examined, processed, understood and overcome.

Here are some resources that can help ~ and as always, if you know of any that you'd like to see added to the list, please feel free to leave a comment, below.

A Guide to Ending Dating Violence Against Women
- from Safe Harbor House

Abusive Parents: The Debt - Article by Emily Yoffe

Ambiguous Grief: Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive - from What's Your Grief?

Ambiguous Grief: Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive (Part 2) - from What's Your Grief?

Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief - Book by Pauline Boss

An Accidental Witness: Photographer Captures Domestic Violence on Film - Article by Kathleen Chlohessy

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life - Book by Cloud and Townsend

Breaking the Ruhls: A Memoir - Book by Larry Ruhl

Complex and Difficult Endings - A List of Useful Links

Complicated Grief: Mourning An Abusive Mother - Article by Marty Tousley

Death That Brings Relief - A List of Links from Grief Healing

Death Wish: Dealing with a Negative, High-Maintenance, Aging Parent - Article by Mark Goulston

Domestic Abuse Is Not Just About Beefy, Steroidal, Entitled, Misogynistic Football Players Having a Bad Day - Article by Beleruth Naparstek

Domestic Abuse: Warning Signs of Domestic Violence - via Web MD

Domestic Violence and Abuse Help Guide - via

Domestic Violence and Addiction Guide - via Detox Local

Domestic Violence and Substance Abuse Resources and Help - via Recovery Village

Domestic Violence: Emerging Solutions - from Sunshine Behavioral Health

Essential Survival Guide for Victims of Domestic Abuse - Article by Michael James

Exit Tactics: How to Safely Skip Out on Your Abuser - Article by Belleruth Naperstek

Grief and Loss After Abuse - Article from Women's Resource Service

Grief and Loss Due to Death from Alcoholism or Alcohol-Related Problems - Al-Anon/Alateen Family Groups Web Page

Grieving a Difficult or Conflicted Relationship - Article by Jacque Amweg

Grieving After Your Abusive Relationship - Article by Jeanne King, PhD

Grieving Someone You Didn't Like (Because It Happens) - Article from What's Your Grief?

Heartbreak, Abandonment and Betrayal - Guided Imagery CD or MP3 by Belleruth Naparstek

He's Dead, But He's No Saint - Article by Robyn Woodman

Hopeline from Verizon - Connecting Survivors of Domestic Violence to Vital Resources

How Cancer Killed My Father and Our Already Failing Relationship - Article by Neil Pearson

How My Understanding of Grief Has Evolved - Article by Ayliesh Chaplin

How to Help When An Alcoholic or Addict Dies - Article by Buddy T

How to Know When (and How) to Ask for Help - Article by Connor Kozlov

How to Leave Your Abuser And Still Stay Safe - Article by Belleruth Naparstek

How to Support a Friend After Sexual Assault - Article from Option B and Joyful Heart Foundation

I Couldn't Fix You - A daughter laments her mother's addiction death

Identifying a Connection Between Substance Abuse and Domestic Violence - Article from

Intimate Partner Sexual Violence: A Multidisciplinary Guide to Improving Services and Support for Survivors of Rape and Abuse - Book edited by  Louise MC-Ormond-Plummer et al.

Is Anger One of the Stages of Grief? - Article by Marty Tousley

It's Complicated by John Polo

Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships: A Meditation by Traci Stein

Liberating Losses: When Death Brings Relief - Book by Jennifer Elison and Chris Mcgonigle

Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: Therapeutic Work With Ambiguous Loss - Book by Pauline Boss

Losses of Leaving An Abusive Relationship - Article by Irene Matiatos

Mother Loss and the Grief of Abandonment - Article by Marty Tousley

My Alcoholic Father Made My Life Hell. Now We're Estranged - How Can I Keep It That Way? - Article by Dr. Petra Boynton

Rebuilding Your Finances After Financial Abuse - Article by Madison Blancaflor

Since Nobody's Perfect, May We Speak Ill Of The Dead? - Article by Greg Adams

Symbolic Loss of an Alcoholic Father - Article by Trish Williams

Take Ownership of What You've Discovered - Article by Rebecca Soffer

The Grief That Dare Not Speak Its Name - Article by Sandra Bloom, MD

The Lingering Trauma of Childhood Abuse - Article by Susanne Babble

Tips on Staying Safe After Leaving Your Abuser - Article by Belleruth Naparstek

Tough Transitions: Navigating Your Way through Difficult Times - Book by Elizabeth Harper Neeld, PhD

Twice Broken: My Journey to Wholeness - Book by Kathleen Serenko

What Do You Do When Death Is A Relief? - Article by Ben Michaelis, PhD

What If The Deceased Is Despised? - Article by Larry Patten

What Is Complicated Grief? - Article by Marty Tousley

What It's Like to Grieve A Parent You Didn't Like - Article by Catherine Pearson

What's In A Preposition? Grammar for Grieving - Article by Karen Kaplan

When A Parent Dies - Article by Mark Liebenow

When People Aren't Exceptions - Article by Peggy Haymes

When Your Abuser Dies - Article by Elizabeth Coplan

When Your Dearly Departed Loved One May Not Be So Lovely - Article by Larry Patten

Why People Stay In Abusive Relationships - Article by Craig Malkin, PhD

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