Monday, May 20, 2019

Voices of Experience: How to Survive Caring for Aging Parents

By Jacqueline Marcell

I want to tell you how much I miss my mother. Bits of her are still there. I miss her most when I am sitting across from her.  ~ Candy Crowley

Jacqueline Marcell is a former television executive who gave up her career to take care of her challenging elderly father and sweet mother, both with undiagnosed Alzheimer’s. The experience was so shocking that it compelled her to write her first book, Elder Rage, or Take My Father, Please!, to help caregivers avoid all the pitfalls she experienced and to prevent their frustrations from escalating to any form of elder abuse. Here she offers a glimpse of her caregiving journey:

Sunday, May 19, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 12 - May 18, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Working while mourning: How to grieve when you're on the job, http://j.mp/2HCEMUz « NBC News

Am I Going Crazy or Grieving? http://bit.ly/2HuIi3C « Shine On Counseling

Why we need to talk about grief, http://j.mp/2HI9wUz « Harper's Bazaar

Monday, May 13, 2019

Pet Loss: Death of A Service Dog

A service dog can mean a whole new way of life for the handicapped. The activities that able-bodied people take for granted now can be routine for the disabled also, with the help of a four-footed therapist.  ~ Janet Ruckert, EdD

A reader writes: I have been looking at your websites and the materials that you offer for pet loss. I'm wondering if any of it would be of help to me. I lost my dear sweet black Lab Service Dog to malignant melanoma just a few weeks ago. She was not a pet ~ she was my assistant and helper and light of my life for nine and a half years. She was my constant companion and went with me everywhere. She helped me every day both physically and emotionally. I use a wheelchair and a specially converted rampvan for mobility. If I fell my dog would go find help for me. Her loss has left an unbelievably huge hole in my heart. I let her go because I could not and would not let her continue to hurt like I know that she was. I need her so much and just can't seem to let myself get on with the things I need to do in my life without her.

Sunday, May 12, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 5 - May 11, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Forget the Flowers and Skip the Brunch. I Hate Mother’s Day. http://j.mp/2VrUfAF « Medium

Parents Who Lost A Child Need A Day Like Mother's And Father's Day, http://j.mp/2HnstvB « The Federalist

Writing a Book With My Mom Kept Her Memory Alive, http://j.mp/2Vjl4qO  « Modern Loss

Monday, May 6, 2019

Parent Loss: Grieving An Elderly Mother

We knew and loved our mothers our whole life. It's no mystery why it hurts so much and why it takes so long to heal.  ~ Elaine Mallon 

A reader writes: Yesterday was the 4th month anniversary of my Mom's death. I still feel that after this time I have not fully grieved over her, or that if I do, I will not emerge from the pit of despair. I have been beset by material problems that have distracted me from grief, problems that are connected with her death. I feel that my mind is fracturing, that I am being hemmed in and trapped by everything, and there will be no end to this suffering. It is a constant companion that seems to not ever want to leave.

Sunday, May 5, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, April 28 - May 4, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Hospice Journey, http://j.mp/2GTYZoG « Widower's Grief

‘My Death Stories Are My Birth Stories’ http://j.mp/2GUJJI3 « Modern Loss

We All Have A Grief Secret, http://j.mp/2H0tUjh « What's Your Grief?

Monday, April 29, 2019

In Grief: Supporting the Survivor of Suicide Loss

Image by Pexels from Pixabay
Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.  ~ Helen Keller

A reader writes: Six months ago I learned that a dear friend’s husband died by suicide. He was found hanging in their garage. As horrible as that was, I’ve just been told that yesterday their 17-year-old son took his own life too, and in the very same way. We are all in a state of shock. I don’t know what I can do to help her. I don’t even know where to begin. Would you have any suggestions or words of wisdom for me?

Sunday, April 28, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, April 21 - April 27, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Out of Grief Comes Faith, http://j.mp/2VnpsEs « The Grief Dialogues

Grief After Accidents, Suicide, and Other Sudden Losses, http://j.mp/2VuxStu « Crossroads

Why losing a dog can be harder than losing a relative or friend, http://j.mp/2KYWWEX « AfterTalk

Monday, April 22, 2019

Voices of Experience: A Glimpse of Life After Loss

By Sharon McCuistian

All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.  ~ Havelock Ellis

After the sudden, unexpected death of her husband, Sharon Ellis McCuistian found herself a widow at the age of 48. With two grown children in college, Sharon had to find a way to live in her new reality. She turned to the things she loved to help in her journey through grief: faith, family, friends, and her love of words. Writing became the cathartic venue by which she began to process her loss. That writing grew into her blog, Now Choose Life, where the following post first appeared. It is reprinted here with her permission.

Sunday, April 21, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, April 14 - April 20, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Caring for a Loved One: The Letter Every Caregiver Should Write, http://j.mp/2KUo6Nx « Grief In Common

8 Things to Consider Regarding End of Life Pain Management, http://j.mp/2Pmag4X « BK Books

How to Find the Right Words for Someone in Hospice, http://bit.ly/2H7LQuA « Next Avenue

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Understanding and Managing Grief, April 14 - April 20, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Out of Grief Comes Emotion, http://j.mp/2PiE96c « The Grief Dialogues

Grief Mistakes, http://j.mp/2PiWqAb « Soaring Spirits International

The Griever's Bill of Rights, http://j.mp/2Pm00tG « Refuge In Grief

Monday, April 15, 2019

In Grief: What's Age Got To Do With It?

If you were 12 years old, no one would believe it odd that you would grieve the loss of your mom, so why do we assume it is easier 50 years later?  Those 50 additional years carry even more shared memories.  ~ Kenneth Doka

A reader writes: I am writing because I had a negative interaction with a store clerk about the death of my mother and I am stunned at how sensitive I am to the insensitivity of strangers. I need some kind of reality check.

Sunday, April 14, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, April 7 - April 13, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

What not to say to a bereaved person, http://j.mp/2P8tPxo « AK Lander

Recognizing The Vital Role of Hospice Volunteers, http://bit.ly/2IZUOHk « Grief Healing

My Sudden-Onset Only Child Syndrome, http://j.mp/2uWWvAt « Modern Loss

Monday, April 8, 2019

Caregiving and Grief in Alzheimer's and Dementia: Suggested Resources

[Reviewed and updated May 21, 2019]

Grief is the constant yet hidden companion of Alzheimer's disease and other related dementias.  ~ Kenneth J. Doka

A hospice colleague writes: We are preparing a program on issues of caring for those with dementia (and their caregivers) who are bereaved, as well as caring for the bereaved whose loved ones had dementia. If you find any relevant material on these issues, I would appreciate anything you can share.

Sunday, April 7, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, March 31 - April 6, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Hospice of the Valley program offers the dying solace, companionship, http://j.mp/2OPX1t8 « AZCentral

Growing Old Is Better With a Pet. Here's Why, http://j.mp/2uNs2oa « TIME

Palliative Care instead of “pseudomedicine” for dementia? http://j.mp/2OBYNh9 « CaregivingOldGuy.website

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Understanding and Managing Grief, March 31 - April 6, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Out of Grief Comes Spirit, http://j.mp/2OT5Gel « The Grief Dialogues

Did my child die because I lacked faith? http://j.mp/2ORwlYR « emotionally naked

3 Suicides Last Month Connected to School Shootings, http://j.mp/2OUdywg  « Seven Ponds Blog

Monday, April 1, 2019

When Grief Affects Performance At Work

Image by athree23 on Pixabay
Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.  ~ Fred Rogers

A reader writes: This past year was a very difficult one for me and my family.   My father was diagnosed with a terminal illness and passed 7 months later. The day he died my mother-in-law was hospitalized and a few days later we found out she had stage 4 cancer and had only a few months left. She died 2 months later. I took one month compassionate care leave to look after my father and two bereavement leaves, and most of the year I was in a fog. It was very difficult to watch my father suffer over several months before he passed away at home.

Sunday, March 31, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, March 24 - March 30, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Jacqueline Marcell - Elderly Patient Care, http://j.mp/2Ov9cLK « Throomers

I Hear You, But I Don't Understand, http://j.mp/2OqXEsN « BK Books

Alex Trebek, Cancer, and the Language of Life-Limiting Illness, http://j.mp/2OoyzyJ « Seven Ponds Blog

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Understanding and Managing Grief, March 24 - March 30, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How To Talk To Your Kids About Death And Grief, http://j.mp/2OxehTR « HuffPost Australia

'Stay Strong,' And Other Useless Drivel We Tell The Grieving, http://j.mp/2FITl9q « Cognoscenti

Out of Grief Comes Community, http://j.mp/2FKuja7 « Grief Dialogues Blog

Monday, March 25, 2019

Pet Loss: Was My Cat Saying Goodbye?

A reader writes: This past weekend, my Puff (14+year-old cat) left this world and went to a better place. The other day she kissed my face all over and then licked my neck--with such gusto too--a contrast to how she became as she got older, blind and not able to stand. I think a 2-day heat wave contributed to her demise--but she hasn't been herself for months. The vet figures it was a neurological problem such as a brain tumor, or stroke--like my late but great grandma would say, "whatever it was, it wasn't good"-- the time had come.

Sunday, March 24, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, March 17 - March 23, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Demand for Hospice Care Is Increasing, http://j.mp/2WevnZ7 « Seven Ponds Blog

Three Magical Phrases to Comfort a Dying Person, http://j.mp/2Wf2AUf « Human Parts

This Podcast Begins at the End, http://j.mp/2TSqmsE « Modern Loss

Understanding and Managing Grief, March 17 - March 23, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Disenfranchised: A Grief Counselor Discusses Losing Her Job, http://bit.ly/2trW28h « The Atlantic

What If the Deceased is Despised? http://j.mp/2TQYRiY « Hospice Matters

Bereavement Researcher: We Must Do Better for the Grief-Stricken, http://j.mp/2Whyy2h « NextAvenue

Monday, March 18, 2019

Voices of Experience: My Beautiful Husband

by Louise McOrmond-Plummer

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.  ~ Lao Tzu

When her beautiful husband, Ken, died from cancer two years ago, Louise had a sense that her protector, her champion, the person who loved her most in the world, was gone. "That was pretty scary," she writes, "but I've had some powerful healing thoughts recently." Those thoughts were first expressed in a post she wrote for AfterTalk, and are reprinted here with her permission:

Sunday, March 17, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, March 10 - March 16, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grief of Dementia, http://j.mp/2Hc9LJG « Widower's Grief

Life in Jeopardy, http://j.mp/2HhFqcL « HOPEspot

With Dementia, More is Needed than a Boilerplate Advance Directive, http://j.mp/2Hc3Ynk « The Conversation Project

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Understanding and Managing Grief, March 10 - March 16, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Donna, A Photo Memoir of Love and Loss, http://j.mp/2HBuDJt « Donna The Book

Helping to spread the word: short film tackles children dealing with grief and how imagination might heal a broken heart, http://j.mp/2HCVZPm « IndieGoGo

Setbacks in Grief, http://j.mp/2HvPX37 « Grief Compass

Monday, March 11, 2019

In Grief: Saying Goodbye to A Family Home

We carry our homes within us which enables us to fly.  ~ John Cage

A reader writes: I found out Saturday afternoon on a walk that there are people living in my parents' old house. Intellectually I knew it was going to happen, but emotionally... (I always have this dichotomy: an intellectual grasp of something, and an emotional grasp. There is quite often a significant lag time for the emotional grasp to catch up. I am trying to follow others' advice about letting the emotions lead, but its hard. My basic "default" setting is intellect first, then emotions.)

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, March 4 - March 9, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Care–Informal Style, http://j.mp/2Hm2w0T « The Unprepared Caregiver

Most Adults Don’t Have the End-of-Life Care Documents They Need, http://j.mp/2H4I85c « 1-800-HOSPICE™

How to Find the Right Words for Someone in Hospice, http://j.mp/2H7LQuA « Next Avenue

Understanding and Managing Grief, March 4 - March 9, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

7 Ways to Treat Yourself With Kindness While Grieving, http://j.mp/2Hozqy3 « What's Your Grief?

How Matthew Broderick's movie "To Dust" explores grief with laughter, http://j.mp/2H4W8f2 « Legacy.com

Life after Caregiving, http://j.mp/2NKCfdG  « AfterTalk Inspirational 3.7.19

Monday, March 4, 2019

In Grief: Having a Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

At midnight, even bad days come to an end.  ~ Ms Moem

A reader writes: I lost both my parents and it sucks. My father died before I even graduated from college. For me, I wanted to make my parents proud by going to college, and getting a good paying job and helping them out financially. My father died before I even graduated, and he never saw me off to my real professional job. Life seemed pointless. My dream was killed. A part of me died. Our family was broken. We had to find a way to hold the table up with one person short. At that point, I realized that the most important thing to me was to spend as much time as I could with family, especially my mom, since she was hurting so much because she lost her companion. She became my best friend and we did everything together. And I was happy. I just wanted time with my family. And then last month my mother passes away. I'm so shocked I can't believe it. Now what I lived for, just got killed again.

Sunday, March 3, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, February 24 - March 2, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

My Personal Integrity Was Wounded Tonight, http://j.mp/2GNyFPr « Barbara Karnes, RN

Bereavement Service, http://j.mp/2NtrxrY « HOPEspot

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Understanding and Managing Grief, February 24 - March 2, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Longing of Saudade, http://j.mp/2NCu17n « Widower's Grief

I'm Feeling Crazy. Do I Need Psychotherapy? http://bit.ly/2GSN4tM « Open To Hope

New Research Shows the Power of 1 Session of Guided Imagery on Anxiety, http://j.mp/2GQxSgD « Health Journeys

Coping with Pet Loss, February 24 - March 2, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

New York Allows Pet Burials in Human Cemeteries, http://bit.ly/2NEVfKQ  « Seven Ponds Blog

Losing a Pet Can Be Just as Hard as Losing a Loved One, http://j.mp/2GS5Lxz  « PsychCentral

Pet Loss: Cannot Stop Crying, http://j.mp/2GwOudd « Grief Healing

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Monday, February 25, 2019

Voices of Experience: Advice on Coping With Loss

by Hannah Wessel

I found this advice on Reddit.  It was posted in response to a lady who asked for advice on coping with the loss of her best friend.  It seems an unlikely place to find inspiration and advice, but I think this reply is incredibly moving and it has helped me deal with my grief since I lost my mother.

Sunday, February 24, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 17 - February 23, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The hierarchy of grief is real - and that's okay. Every grief is valid. http://j.mp/2GFhwHH « Refuge in Grief

Please Know: I Love Talking About My Child Who Died, http://j.mp/2GIaZMc  « Still Standing Magazine

“End Game” Nominated for an Academy Award, http://j.mp/2GBinJi « Seven Ponds Blog

Monday, February 18, 2019

Pet Loss: Cannot Stop Crying

Where he is really buried, and where he is, and where he always will be, is in my heart.  ~ Cleveland Amory, in The Best Cat Ever

A reader writes: I lost my kitty, Sunny today and my grief is overwhelming. I knew this was coming because she was diagnosed with a bad heart four months ago. She was only 5 years old. We (me and my daughter) did everything we could, lots of doctors, lots of meds and lots of tests. Each time she came home from the hospital, she had her quality of life back, if only for 2 to 3 weeks and then back to the doctor. This week she was at the hospital for 3 straight days with nothing helping and she became so ill and was so tired with the heart of hers. This morning it was determined that her kidneys and liver were affected and there was nothing they could do. And she was so tired. She passed away at 9:00 AM this morning and I cannot stop crying.

Sunday, February 17, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 10 - February 16, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

A Valentine Letter for YOU, http://j.mp/2GsVbwX « Second Firsts

Grief Support: Paying it Forward, http://j.mp/2IeRdd0 « Grief Compass

Over the Edge. Maybe, http://j.mp/2IdfvUO « Soaring Spirits International

Monday, February 11, 2019

In Grief: Mother Loss vs. Spouse Loss

Make friends with guilt. Guilt is a beautiful emotion that alerts us when something is wrong so that we may achieve peace with our conscience. Without conscience there would be no morality. So we can greet guilt cordially and with acceptance, just as we do all other emotions. After we respond to guilt, it has done its job and we can release it.  ~ Glenn R. Schiraldi

A reader writes: My mother was diagnosed with cancer and was given 6 weeks to live. She died six weeks later. Just one month after that, my husband was told there was something in his lung. By the time he was finally diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, it had spread to the lining of his lung and his bones. My husband was 57 and had just retired 3 months before we knew he was ill. Within eight months after diagnosis, he was dead. So I have had two great losses in a ten-month period. 

Sunday, February 10, 2019

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 3 - February 9, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How Does Opening Up Conversations About Death Help Bereaved Parents? http://j.mp/2IfSIYz « Seven Ponds Blog

Why It’s OK for Your Loved One to Stop Eating and Drinking on Hospice, http://j.mp/2DhyQya « Crossroads Hospice and Palliative Care

Grief Tracking: What A Difference A Dot Makes, http://j.mp/2Gd8uBj « Grieve Well

Monday, February 4, 2019

In Grief: Refusing to Let Go

I desire no future that will break the ties of the past.  ~ George Eliot

A reader writes: I read the Darcie Sims article posted on your Discussion Groups website on "saying goodbye." THANK YOU! It is so perfectly what I believe. In fact, I have been told several times by people to "let go" of my ex who has died. I hate that.

Sunday, February 3, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, January 27 - February 2, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Help for an Alcoholic Struggling with Addiction for 25 Years, http://j.mp/2G4LaFT « Health Journeys

Is It Ever Too Soon To Enter Hospice Care? We Ask Heart of Hospice, http://bit.ly/2CUSIqQ « KPEL965

Why falls and fractures in the elderly can be a trigger for hospice care, http://j.mp/2D7Fasj « The Journal

Understanding and Managing Grief, January 27 - February 2, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Am I Depressed? http://j.mp/2G5DG5H « Talkspace

My Cat’s Death Broke My Brain, http://j.mp/2G4whDw « Modern Loss

50 Practical Gestures to Help a Grieving Friend, http://bit.ly/2qmUgCq « Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro

Monday, January 28, 2019

Voices of Experience: My Self-Care Basket for 2019

by Anne M. Gorman

When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.   
~ Jean Shinoda Bolen

As a caregiver for my beloved Jim for five years, one important thing I learned during that time was the importance of caring for self. I think that part of healing has to do with self-care and this is what I'm doing for the New Year. I just came off of a Stay-at-Home Retreat and decided to prepare a Self-Care Basket that I can go to when I need a day to focus on myself. This did not happen to me in my first years of loss, but we change – and for me, today I like to focus on doing something for myself.

Sunday, January 27, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, January 20 - January 26, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Refusing Treatment At Age 93, http://j.mp/2RSVMhG « Barbara Karnes RN

10 things patients should know about hospitals, http://j.mp/2RNNA23 « Kevin MD

New global consensus-based definition of palliative care across all ages, http://j.mp/2RJlMfk « ehospice

Understanding and Managing Grief, January 20 - January 26, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Captivating World of Mary Oliver, http://j.mp/2RKw66y « TIME

“Get Over It,” http://j.mp/2ROTXC0 « Grief Compass

I Died Too, http://j.mp/2RLpipk « Better Not Bitter Widower

Monday, January 21, 2019

Death of A Friend: A Disenfranchised Grief

Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.  ~ Flavia Weedn   

A reader writes: A friend of mine died last month. I have been struggling to cope since then. We met only a few months ago when I did some work at the theater where he was based. We knew each other a very short time and I realize that if you've lost someone you've known for years this may seem so selfish and silly, but we really connected and I miss him so much.

Sunday, January 20, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, January 13 - January 19, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

What is the Pet Partners Therapy Animal Program? http://j.mp/2CuvRCh « Seven Ponds Blog

Conversation With Barbara Karnes - The Little Blue Book Lady! by Palliative Care Chat, http://j.mp/2CsRbIp « University of MD Baltimore

The elderly couple who bought vitamins at the grocery store, http://j.mp/2Cmu0iS « Kevin, MD

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Understanding and Managing Grief, January 13 - January 19, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

My dad’s lesson in parenting through grief, served with a side of eggs, http://j.mp/2RBjAGl « The Washington Post

Grieving Who I Used To Be, http://j.mp/2RyUgku « What's Your Grief ?

Updated: Tips for Coping with Sleeplessness in Grief, http://bit.ly/2HuFva9 « Grief Healing

Monday, January 14, 2019

Voices of Experience: Bittersweet

Memories, even bittersweet ones, are better than nothing.  ~ Jennifer Armentrout

Jan Warner believes that honoring grief is honoring love. She says she wants her husband's life to matter more than his death, but she also acknowledges that she will always grieve his loss. After nine years of learning to live without him, she still has days when everything falls apart. Nevertheless, she has a letter from her husband telling her how he watches her fall down and then get back up again: "He writes that he loves me and is proud of me for this. I hope I am still making him proud." Here Jan shares some of where she's been in her own grief journey, and what she's discovered along the way:

Sunday, January 13, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, January 6 - January 12, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The discrimination against nurse practitioners must stop, http://j.mp/2CfXP4p « Kevin MD

GoFundMe: 4 Tips for Effective Medical Crowdfunding, http://j.mp/2CegKNf « Crossroads

Six Months To Live? A Doctor's Prediction, http://j.mp/2CbNGpz « Barbara Karnes RN

Understanding and Managing Grief, January 6 - January 12, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Sudden Loss Of A Child: How A Marriage Survives, http://j.mp/2ChoLkC  « AfterTalk

Grieving with Mr. Pickles: Thoughts on Showtime’s ‘Kidding,’ http://j.mp/2Rgs8ma « Pallimed

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Monday, January 7, 2019

Pet Loss: Can I Euthanize My Dog On My Own?

Asking for others' guidance helps you to see what you may not be able to see.  ~ Ken Blanchard

A reader writes: I want to release my dog's spirit in a wilderness area he so loves and belongs to be laid to rest in. All the vets I talk to will only kill him in their office or for another pile of cash come to my home. I am also told for .25 I can kill him with a bullet (not possible). I need to know how to euthanize my dog on my own without violence, how to overdose him on dog or human Rx's or whatever it takes to give him a peaceful passage to the other side. Please help me or direct me to a resource that can. I want both my dog and myself to have this done with dignity and not deal with the mercenary mindset of vets who have lost their heart to care for animals and only want $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.  Thank you for whatever, if anything, you can do.

Sunday, January 6, 2019

Caregiving and Hospice, December 30 - January 5, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Hospice Care in an Assisted Living or Skilled Nursing Facility, http://j.mp/2R532Xi « Hospice of the Red River Valley

If You Struggle to Talk About Death, Read This, http://bit.ly/2BTGBKc « Thrive Global

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Understanding and Managing Grief, December 30 - January 5, 2019

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

'Mary Poppins Returns' Is a Subtle Exploration of Grief,  http://j.mp/2BWWdfU  « The Atlantic

When a Loved One is Dying: The Unspoken Emotions and Impact of Grief, http://j.mp/2BZ6Z5u « PSYCOM

Hospice of the Valley offers support in Fountain Hills, http://j.mp/2C2HQqe  « Fountain Hills Times