Showing posts with label mothers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mothers. Show all posts
Silent Grief: Pregnancy, Stillbirth and Infant Loss
Coping with Bad Dreams and Nightmares in Grief
There are many who don't wish to sleep for fear of nightmares. Sadly, there are many who don't wish to wake for the same fear. ~ Richelle Goodrich
In Grief: Coping With Infant Loss
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I remember the people I love who have died even though it brings my heart deep sadness. Not to remember them feels like I'm living a lie and like they are dying twice. ~ Dr. Joanne Cacciatore
My husband Michael and I were just out of college when we married in 1965. Less than two years later we were mourning the unexpected death of our second son, who succumbed to an Rh incompatibility when he was barely three days old.
Our baby David Luke Tousley was delivered via C-section on May 23, 1967, after what we thought had been a normal, full-term pregnancy. He died three days later, on May 26.
My husband Michael and I were just out of college when we married in 1965. Less than two years later we were mourning the unexpected death of our second son, who succumbed to an Rh incompatibility when he was barely three days old.
Our baby David Luke Tousley was delivered via C-section on May 23, 1967, after what we thought had been a normal, full-term pregnancy. He died three days later, on May 26.
Understanding and Managing Grief, May 13 - May 19, 2018
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Powerful: After a Teenager's Death, Metaphors Fail, http://j.mp/2IrHgZe « Modern Loss
'Keep living your story' ~ Shadow Narratives, http://j.mp/2IqnihH « Bryan C. Taylor
Woman Has Photos Taken of Herself in Wedding Dress after Death of her Fiance, http://j.mp/2rSqGHH « Seven Ponds Blog
Understanding and Managing Grief, July 23 - July 29, 2017
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Struggling with Grief? You Need Not Struggle Alone, http://j.mp/2uJT0wl « Self Healing Expressions
Reject the 'J' Word that Devastates Grievers, http://j.mp/2v6dr9c « Stunned By Grief
Grief Identity Crisis: Who are we now? http://j.mp/2v4DZYp « The Grief Toolbox
Struggling with Grief? You Need Not Struggle Alone, http://j.mp/2uJT0wl « Self Healing Expressions
Reject the 'J' Word that Devastates Grievers, http://j.mp/2v6dr9c « Stunned By Grief
Grief Identity Crisis: Who are we now? http://j.mp/2v4DZYp « The Grief Toolbox
Understanding and Managing Grief, May 11 - May 17, 2014
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Reflections on 'Mother,' http://j.mp/1nSxUVd « What's Your Grief?
The Challenges of Raising Children after the Death of a Child, http://j.mp/1lwN24r « Alive in Memory
I Lost My Daughter and I Lost Hope, Until I Faced My Grief, http://j.mp/1gIAR35 « Everyday Health
Reflections on 'Mother,' http://j.mp/1nSxUVd « What's Your Grief?
The Challenges of Raising Children after the Death of a Child, http://j.mp/1lwN24r « Alive in Memory
I Lost My Daughter and I Lost Hope, Until I Faced My Grief, http://j.mp/1gIAR35 « Everyday Health
Understanding and Managing Grief, November 4 - November 10, 2012
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- Kids say "It's Okay To Talk About Grief," http://j.mp/Q29vwX video by @BrookesPlace
- Grieving students cope at school with Hospice help, http://ow.ly/2t7uUC via @GriefHelp
- Video promo for Children's Grief Awareness Day. Check it out! http://ow.ly/f9zTR via @NAGCnews
- Animal Friends: Love in the Present Moment, http://j.mp/YYRvEV via @MarianneSoucy
- Interview with Proof Of Heaven's author, Dr. Eben Alexander III, http://www.AfterlifeTV.com by AfterLifeTV's @bobolson
Silent Grief: Pregnancy and Infant Loss
Silent Grief: Pregnancy, Stillbirth and Infant Loss
A reader writes: It’s been two weeks since my baby died. I was 6 1/2 months pregnant. She had been extremely active ever since I first started feeling her move, but at around 22 or 23 weeks there were days when she wouldn't move at all. At 26 weeks, when I hadn't felt any movement for two days straight, my doctor ordered a full ultrasound, which showed no movement at all, although there was a heartbeat. During the emergency c-section that followed, my baby was stillborn . . . Read on here>>>
A reader writes: It’s been two weeks since my baby died. I was 6 1/2 months pregnant. She had been extremely active ever since I first started feeling her move, but at around 22 or 23 weeks there were days when she wouldn't move at all. At 26 weeks, when I hadn't felt any movement for two days straight, my doctor ordered a full ultrasound, which showed no movement at all, although there was a heartbeat. During the emergency c-section that followed, my baby was stillborn . . . Read on here>>>
Understanding and Managing Grief, May 20 - May 26, 2012
- Delayed Grief and The Aftermath Of Loss, http://j.mp/Khgwoe
- When Doctors Grieve, http://j.mp/KhghJR via @swhitbo
- Powerful Video: 3 Mothers on Losing a Child and How A Support Group Can Help, http://j.mp/JLK1uj via @HopefulMJ
- Helping Bereaved Youth Successfully Navigate Through the Grief Process, http://j.mp/JLN1Xv via @TraumaReport
- Amazing: Keeping A Father's Memory Alive, http://j.mp/KP1JT2 | Maria Shriver
Nightmares and Bad Dreams in Grief
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A reader writes: It's now been six months since my mother died. In many ways it seems like worlds and eons since then, but in some ways not at all. I really miss her and talking to her every few days, as was our old routine. The problem I’m having is that I dream about her almost every night. It's never the same scenario, except that she's always sick, like she was toward the end. Sometimes I wake up crying. This has been going on for pretty much the entire time since she died. Is this normal??? I think of her from time to time during the day, but not obsessively so. I'm able to function pretty well. So I'm wondering if this is normal and how much other people have a similar experience.
Understanding and Managing Grief, April 1 - April 7, 2012
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- "Very helpful site for those in grief and for those who love them," http://j.mp/Hrj6p6 via @mfhunt
- Men in grief need to be strong, or do they? http://shar.es/rW9BH via @TheGriefToolbox
- There is a difference between Loneliness and Solitude in Grief, http://shar.es/rHr79 via @TheGriefToolbox
- Uplifting! Mom discovers baby has Down syndrome, http://j.mp/HhnwBC « Maria Shriver Blog
- Insightful! Don’t Carry The Weight, http://j.mp/Hg34w5 « Rising Through Grief
Guilt and Regret in Grief
The message of shame is “I am bad.” The message of guilt is “I did something bad.” ~ Dale Larson
My response: This feeling of guilt in the aftermath of significant loss is so common as to be universal. Much has been written about why we experience it and what we can do to cope with it. (See, for example, The Burden of Guilt in Grief.)
Caregiving and Hospice, February 26 - March 3, 2012
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- When I Needed Help - Outstanding first-hand account on need for caregiving, http://nyti.ms/zhzSv5 via @thenewoldage and @ctfox
- Give Hospice Time to Balance Pain Control With Alertness, Nurse Says, http://ow.ly/9obAt via @ctffox
- Terminally ill pet therapy dog spends final days celebrating life with hospice patients, http://shar.es/gZFPR via @SolariHospice
- Intimacy, Marriage and Alzheimer's Disease, bit.ly/yBBruG via @asnl2
- Lovely! Cooking cuts through mother’s dementia, http://bit.ly/x4lQCE via @alzcny
Caregiving and Hospice, February 19 - February 25, 2012
- A Daughter’s Love, a Mother’s Last Breath, http://NYTimes.com
- What top authors say about caregiving from tips to policy demands, http://aarp.us/yr0usf via @AARPOR
- Tips on caregiving from caregivers, http://ow.ly/9egwG via @mjcare
- Lovely! "You're Still You" by Connie Foster, http://bit.ly/y5UUAB via @KoryWells
- How to talk to one who is terminally ill, http://ow.ly/9ftVG via @SeasonsHospice
Understanding and Managing Grief, January 29 - February 4, 2012
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- Dr. T. Byram Karasu: Is grief a pathological condition? http://bit.ly/zcak0B via @MontefioreNews
- Memorial Service Basics: Honoring the Deceased, Comforting the Bereaved, http://dlvr.it/18yqH8 via @houstonfunerals
- Death Is Nothing at All, http://j.mp/y2TKZd
- Loss As A Catalyst For Spiritual Awakening, http://j.mp/zQGJDA
- Lovely! Butterfly Suite helps bereaved parents, http://bbc.in/zVGu14 via @_lizzy_
Understanding and Managing Grief, January 8 - January 14, 2012
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- Effects of unresolved grief can be devastating, http://j.mp/Av3Qug
- How faith changes through grief « Memoirs from Widow Island, http://j.mp/x5V0Nh
- Gloria Horsley: 4R’s of Recovery For Those Who've Experienced #Loss http://j.mp/xHngHA
- Teen loses step-dad, now making a documentary, http://j.mp/Aa8ZTL by @jetlifefilm via @LosingParents
- How Twitter can act as a social support group in mourning and grief, http://j.mp/xsZqPz by @mysendoff
Caregiving and Hospice, January 1 - January 7, 2012
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.: Tips for Talking to Children About Terminal Illness, http://j.mp/z68RR7
- Accepting Death As an Inevitability, http://j.mp/wdluU8
- Should for-profit hospices be banned? Or are they victims of a witch hunt? http://j.mp/A6dpia
- Hospice of the Valley pets featured in calendar j.mp/xCjC28
- Guidelines: when hospice and palliative care may be appropriate for CHF, heart disease, http://j.mp/zJ2wIr
Caregiving and Hospice, November 27 - December 3, 2011
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- Great article: How doctors handle their own dying, http://bit.ly/rI39ox MT @_lizzy_ #hpm
- Why are we afraid of talking about death? http://bit.ly/spB1co by @globeandmail via @_lizzy_
- How Should I Know When a Person Is Ready for Hospice Services? http://bit.ly/tFkMxG via @HorizonHCH and @hospice_news
- Eldercare and chronic pain management, http://bit.ly/rUYbpQ via
@WeCareTogether
- On The Right to Die (see comments on this post, too!) http://bit.ly/rDZKVO by
@stangoldberg
Understanding and Managing Grief, October 16 - October 22, 2011
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
- Book, Alone - For All Those Who Grieve by W. F. (Bill) Cento - Beautiful, touching, uplifting via
@amazon
- Book to help young children understand death and grief: Tess's Tree, via
@forthoodhousing
- Is Depression a chronic disease? http://j.mp/q3cFBH
- When friends aren't notified of a death, http://bit.ly/ooMyqw by
@friendgrief
- Practical, helpful suggestions for Healing After Trauma: Open to Hope interview with Ed Tick, http://j.mp/p5Z8aI
Book Review: Alzheimer's: A Mother Daughter Journey
Consider clearing some space in your heart for Alzheimer's: A Mother Daughter Journey, a photojournalistic memoir about the journey of Celia Pomerantz, a woman who embraces the role of caregiver for her mother. At first ambushed by the demands of caregiving, Celia anchored herself by developing a series of compassionate mission statements to meet each phase of the disease, remaking her initial anguish into a blend of marketing, Zen Buddhism, and salsa dancing.
Like many caregivers, her journey begins with the struggle of convincing her mother to move out of her home and into an assisted living facility, while struggling with the Latina guilt of institutionalizing an elder instead of keeping her at home. Shortly after taking that courageous step, she finds creative ways to manage her mother’s daily living activities like showering, swallowing pills, and general hygiene.
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