Monday, February 19, 2018

Explaining Pet Loss to Children: Some Do's and Don'ts

Childhood is the kingdom where nobody dies. ~ Edna St. Vincent Millay

Whether it’s a dog or a cat, a Guinea pig, a hamster or a goldfish, the death of a pet is often a young family’s first experience with significant loss. As a grief counselor who also specializes in pet loss, I am often asked by teachers, parents, grandparents and others how best to explain to children the death of a family pet. Here are the points I encourage them to consider.

Sunday, February 18, 2018

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 11 - February 17, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

When Grief Causes Guilt, http://j.mp/2EwAsrk « Second Firsts

Go First, Say Their Name, http://j.mp/2EuRpT3 « Grief Compass

My Guide to Finding Love After Loss, http://j.mp/2EuHuwO « Modern Loss

Monday, February 12, 2018

Voices of Experience: One More River to Cross

Image by Joy Filomena
by Mary Jo Heyen

“Everything is upside down and I’m afraid of losing my balance…of falling.”

“I tell people I’m not afraid of dying but I am…”

“Here comes the grief and tears…”

“I feel lost but I know I’m not lost…”

“I could wake myself up when I was scared…but I can’t anymore…”

“My spirit is alive but my spirit can’t move my body…”

“I’m finding I’m feeling a bit less fear…”

“I have one more river to cross…the river Jordan”

“I feel the love…”

These are some of the words and experiences that unfolded over a two week period when I had the honor of being present with and exploring the many dreams and visions of a hospice patient, Gavin (name changed), until his death.

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 4 - February 10, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grief Rituals Can Help on Valentine's Day, http://j.mp/2rPSqiJ « Grief Healing

Grieving well takes a village, or at least a team, http://j.mp/2EaZdsR « The Grief Toolbox

Grief advice for a complacent millenial, http://j.mp/2Ebps2p « Widower's Grief

Coping with Pet Loss, February 4 - February 10, 2018

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Last Miles, http://j.mp/2GR9KHl « Jamie Sheffield

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Monday, February 5, 2018

Mother Loss: Years Later, Still Can't Cope

The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is NOW.  ~ Chinese Proverb

A reader writes: I lost my mum to cancer 8 years ago. I was 17. My brothers were 15 and 13. We have no dad as he never wanted to know us and left years ago. So now I have neither parent. My beautiful mummy was 42 when she died, she would have been 50 this year. She had 16 months of pain and suffering with us by her side until her cancer finally got the better of her and we lost her.

Sunday, February 4, 2018

Caregiving and Hospice, January 28 - February 3, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Why It Helps to Understand Palliative Care Options Before We’re Sick: The Hospicare PATH Program (Palliative Approach to Health), http://j.mp/2s7OFW5 « Hospicare

When Pretense Is All That's Left, http://j.mp/2GtKMxy « Seven Ponds Blog

Grief During the Last Stages of His Life, http://j.mp/2Gu1Q6R « Barbara Karnes, RN

Your feedback is welcome! Please feel free to leave a comment or a question, or share a tip, a related article or a resource of your own in the Comments section below. If you’d like Grief Healing Blog updates delivered right to your inbox, you’re cordially invited to subscribe to our weekly Grief Healing Newsletter. Sign up here.

Understanding and Managing Grief, January 28 - February 3, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Talking Openly About Suicide, http://j.mp/2rVFVCg « Seleni Institute

I Don't Know Who I Am Anymore: Grief and Loss of Identity, http://j.mp/2GyYXBN « What's Your Grief?

Grief During the Last Stages of His Life, http://j.mp/2Gu1Q6R « Barbara Karnes, RN

Monday, January 29, 2018

In Grief: When Dating Is Complicated

There's no limit to how complicated things can get, on account of one thing always leading to another.  ~ E.B. White

A reader writes: My husband of 20 years died  nearly two years ago. It was a second marriage for both of us. He was several years older than I. He had children and so did I. His death from esophageal cancer was a long and difficult one, and during the last part of his life I had some disputes with some of his grown kids over their not helping me to care for him. So after a year I went to a support group at my church with people who had lost spouses or someone close to them. I met a man there who had lost his girlfriend of eight years to breast cancer. Her death had happened only one month before, so things were still quite raw for him. He pursued me via phone calls and we have been seeing each other for the last eight months. About a month ago he started to have a lot of problems with the intimacy part of our relationship.

Sunday, January 28, 2018

Caregiving and Hospice, January 21 - January 27, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

My husband was dying. I was being ignored. http://j.mp/2GlFHY3 « Kevin MD

Waiting too long to use hospice can make suffering at end-of-life worse, http://j.mp/2G8LjoF « The Washington Post

How Can a Care Manager Help You?  http://j.mp/2G2IxBn « Seven Ponds Blog