Monday, December 10, 2018

In Grief: When Church Community Support Is Lacking

With all of the books, articles, videos and seminars available in the world, ignorance on the part of the church or the clergy is no longer defensible. They should know what to say.  ~ Doug Manning

A reader writes: I’m not sure if my feelings are valid or not and I need an outside source to help me with this. To make a long story short, our family has attended a church for around 5 years; this church runs an average attendance of between 500 – 600 people every week. We are very active with the youth group. My problem is that when my father died two months ago, I received only three cards (one very generic from the church, one emailed and one hand delivered), one phone call (from the pastor which was left on the answering machine) and the only two people who attended the viewing or the funeral (the pastor and youth pastor). No flower, food or any other kind of support was offered to us at all. My question is should I be hurt by this…because I am!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, December 9, 2018

Caregiving and Hospice, December 2 - December 8, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week: 

What a kitten taught me about critical care, http://j.mp/2BVzF06 « Kevin MD

A Therapist Says Goodbye, http://j.mp/2BRsndX « Modern Loss 

How to Choose Hospice Care, http://j.mp/2KQzwho « Next Avenue

Understanding and Managing Grief, December 2 - December 8, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week: 

Review: Meditation Coloring Books for Grieving, http://j.mp/2BWIZB7 « Seven Ponds Blog

PSA: TAPS These Days #FamiliesNeverForget, http://j.mp/2BXXULl « You Tube

Grief and Not Wanting to Be Alive, http://j.mp/2BW8ylI « Grief Compass

Coping with Pet Loss, December 2 - December 8, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week: 

What a kitten taught me about critical care, http://j.mp/2BVzF06 « Kevin MD

Online Learning: Healing Guilt: Finding Peace and Self-Forgiveness, http://j.mp/2BQf79l  « The Animal Loss & Grief Support Institute

Pet Loss: Coping with The Trauma of An Unexpected Death, http://j.mp/2KPPWGV « Grief Healing

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Monday, December 3, 2018

Pet Loss: Coping with The Trauma of An Unexpected Death

Source: Wikipedia
There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats.
~ Albert Schweitzer

A reader writes: Three weeks ago I found my beloved 18-month-old Ragdoll  kitten Shalimar lying dead on the floor when I got home from work. Even though I have another Ragdoll (Josie, a 3 year old boy), Shalimar was my shadow. She was always at the door when she heard the key in the door and she would follow me from room to room and sit by me purring loudly. We had a routine every day from the time I got up to get ready to go to work with her bringing me her ball to throw for her to playing chase around the apartment before I left. She would come and sit by me and beg for Cracker Jacks in the evening. As soon as I walked into the apartment, she would greet me and lead me into the apartment, checking over her shoulder, to make sure I was still following her. Her purring would just echo off the walls. She was always so happy.

Sunday, December 2, 2018

Caregiving and Hospice, November 25 - December 1, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week: 

How to Help Patients at the End of Life and Their Loved Ones During the Holidays, http://j.mp/2KJla2q « Oncology Nurse Advisor

Loved ones with health-care decision-making power often over-confident, http://j.mp/2KEYn7X « Reuters

The Role of Hope, Compassion, and Uncertainty in Physicians’ Reluctance to Initiate Palliative Care, http://j.mp/2KDRN1x « AMA Journal of Ethics

Your feedback is welcome! Please feel free to leave a comment or a question, or share a tip, a related article or a resource of your own in the Comments section below. If you’d like Grief Healing Blog updates delivered right to your inbox, you’re cordially invited to subscribe to our weekly Grief Healing Newsletter. Sign up here.

Understanding and Managing Grief, November 25 - December 1, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week: 

Updated: Grief Bibliography, http://j.mp/2BJk5VA « Grief Healing

Book Review: "What to Do When I'm Gone: A Mother's Wisdom to Her Daughter" by Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman, http://j.mp/2KLN5yH « Seven Ponds Blog

When that Last Piece Dies by Brandy Lidbeck, http://j.mp/2KHfQwy « The Gift of Second

Monday, November 26, 2018

In Grief: Feeling Inspired to Write

We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect. ~ Anaïs Nin

A reader writes: I'm not sure what I'm writing here..but felt compelled to say something.  I have been on a horrendous journey since my husband died 4 yrs ago.  Every trauma has hit the children and me.....tonight my son aged 13 who is very ill came to my bed.....he couldn't sleep and was in terrible pain...I don't know how or why..but for the second time over the past few years I did hands-on healing on his stomach....which was an incredible experience for him and me...and that resulted in our best chat together in four years, and he fell asleep.....all I realized was that I had not protected myself from taking his pain....and I became acutely aware of some "talents" that I have........I rushed downstairs and searched the Net, to find information on healing....and then psychic surgery...and then somehow I got to your site!!!

Monday, November 19, 2018

Helping Another in Grief: Suggested Resources

[Updated November 30, 2018]

Why do we keep looking for support in all the wrong places? It's like shopping for milk in a hardware store!  ~ David Kessler

The ability to reach out to others, empathize with their pain and give hope in the face of the most devastating of circumstances is a rare and precious gift ~ and not always easy to find. Unless they've encountered death in a very personal way, most people really don't know what grief feels like and they may not know what, if anything, they can say or do to help us.

Sunday, November 18, 2018

Caregiving and Hospice, November 11 - November 17, 2018

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week: 

How Does Educating People About the Dying Process Reduce Fear? http://j.mp/2K9DfWY
« Seven Ponds Blog

What Hospice Does and Doesn't Do, http://j.mp/2K7ra4O « Next Avenue

BIRTH BACKWARDS, A Daughter's Death, http://j.mp/2B606zO « BK Books