Caregiving and Hospice, May 24 - May 30, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Attention Caregivers: Making Use of Helpful Services, http://j.mp/1dDnGFX « Harvard Health Publications

When Someone Dies by Suicide All Systems Must Provide Help, http://j.mp/1PTThny « Grief After Suicide Blog

Wisconsin Is Learning How to Die, http://j.mp/1HAizxo « Vox

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 24 - May 30, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:


Widow's Voice has a New Home, http://j.mp/1HRWoIu « Widow's Voice

In grief, Use Continuing Bonds for Healing, http://j.mp/1G7mQ0u « With Sympathy Gifts and Keepsakes

You've Got the Power -- How to Know If You Are Doing Your Grief Work, http://j.mp/1FFBOaO « Ezine Articles

Coping with Pet Loss, May 24 - May 30, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

When Your Dog Dies: Reflection on Losing Your Best Friend, http://j.mp/1FfvOCi « HuffPost Healthy Living

Grief-therapy dog is remembered at her own funeral, http://j.mp/1FIiERC « The Columbus Dispatch

Everything I know about a good death I learned from my cat, http://j.mp/1Q9knlG « The Verge

Sibling Loss: When Grief Goes Unacknowledged

A reader writes: My older brother and only sibling passed away suddenly at the age of 30. This is selfish, but what I hated most during the funeral and days to follow were people telling me to:

• Take care of my parents.
• Be there for my parents.
• Watch out for my parents.

It was weird; it was like my grief did not/does not exist. I hate the fact that sibling grief is something that is usually not acknowledged. I mean you can usually find more information on parents losing children or children losing parents or even when you lose a pet -- but hardly any information on the feelings of siblings losing siblings.  Read on here >>>

Caregiving and Hospice, May 17 - May 23, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Email to Jeb Bush: What He (and All of Us) Can Do in the Fight Against Alzheimer's, http://j.mp/1el7fy6 « Maria Shriver

Dying Matters for Friends, Too, http://j.mp/1F6mWje « Victoria Noe

Teenage Angst and Suicide: Don’t Blame Parents, http://j.mp/1Hz70Jq « Bob Livingstone, LCSW

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 17 - May 23, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Elaine Stillwell: Thinking Positively, http://j.mp/1Llielo « Grief Digest Magazine

Picking Up the Scraps, http://j.mp/1BgNz39 « Widower's Grief

Book Review: The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages, http://j.mp/1JHy2Ap « Seven Ponds Blog

Coping with Pet Loss, May 17 - May 23, 2015

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Demand for pet hospice care grows, http://j.mp/1c9rywy « BlueRidgeNow.com

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Guilt And Regret Following The Death of a Friend

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[Reviewed and updated November 27, 2025]

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.  ~ Maria Robinson

A reader writes: Do you have any articles or can you suggest a book that will be helpful to me? I lost a long time friend. We had some unresolved conflict caused by me. I was unable to be with her during the past 2 years as she fought cancer. She shut me out. I deserved it. I am grieving the loss, the lack of closure, and guilt. It is hell. Can you point me to some help? Please?

My response: I’m so sorry to learn of the death of your friend, and of course there is nothing I can say to erase the load of guilt that you are carrying around with you in the wake of your loss. In the end, the only one who can forgive you is you, as I'm sure you already know.

I certainly can tell you that guilt is one of the most common reactions in loss – guilt for what you may have done or failed to say or do.

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 10 - May 16, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Film Review: Up (2009), http://j.mp/1cF7lj1 « SevenPonds Blog

Heart wrenching: Dying With Dignity, http://j.mp/1EDPEYr « HuffPost Healthy Living

Fallout From A Suicide Can Touch Everyone Who Is Exposed, http://j.mp/1F8o8Vn « Grief after Suicide

Caregiving and Hospice, May 10 - May 16, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Assisted-suicide debate puts palliative, hospice care in spotlight, http://j.mp/1ENzUkK « Modern Healthcare

Interview: How Do Caregivers Enjoy Time with Alzheimer's Patients? http://j.mp/1HjItYz « Seven Ponds Blog

Overkill: America’s Epidemic of Unnecessary Care - Atul Gawande, http://j.mp/1JJeae4 « The New Yorker