A reader writes: I send you a letter, asking for guidance and help, my father passed away two months ago, and it's very hard to accept that he is gone, my mom is angry and sad, can you help us.
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Showing posts with label continuing bonds. Show all posts
Struggling With Acceptance and "Letting Go" in Grief
Understanding and Managing Grief, June 30 - July 13, 2024
Over the years, a significant concern of mine has been how to not only share the incredible essence of my mother with those dear to me, but also not hiding the fact she died by suicide. This concern became most pressing over 11 years ago when I was expecting my son. I often pondered how I would introduce him to a grandmother he never had the chance to meet—a woman who loved me intensely yet had a complex story. How could I convey that she loved me, but that I would not leave him? I Finally Told My Son About Mom's Suicide. I Didn't Expect His Reaction « Newsweek
Pet Loss: When Prolonged Grief Prevents Bonding With Another Dog
A reader writes: I know this is seemingly weird but possibly you can help. I am a 37 year old male and I still cry at night sometimes. Here’s why. Three years ago my beloved Copper had to be put down due to cancer. I got him as a pup 13 years prior and for the first 3 years of his life it was just him and I. (We lived on a farm.) I got Copper to try and get through a very difficult time in my life and looking back if it was not for him I probably wouldn't be sending you this message.
Acceptance, Closure, and "Moving On" in Grief
A reader writes: This just isn’t something I can live with. I want to see my dad more than anything in the world. I can’t even go near the words “closure” or “accept.” My friend, who never lost anyone, even a pet, in her life, told me in a matter-of-fact, cheery voice, “You gotta get over it, right? Pick yourself up. Go out and live life. Your dad would have wanted you to be out there, I bet.” I almost hung up on her. I know she meant well, but I was so upset by that.
In Grief: How Writing Letters Can Help
More than kisses, letters mingle souls. ~ John Donne
A reader writes: I'm so sorry for all our losses and the horrible pain we're feeling. I'm a little reluctant to comment because my spouse died two years ago. Yes, I should be "over it" by now as so many have said, but I'm not. I hope my writing this doesn't depress too many others.
Understanding and Managing Grief, March 26 - April 1, 2023
Wind phones function as a therapeutic salve for people grappling with bereavement. They are typically found in a booth set in natural surroundings, where grieving folks can go to call their departed loved ones on a disconnected “phone” that will carry their words to them with the wind. Call Them on a ‘Wind Phone’ so the Breeze Can Carry Your Words « Goodnet
Coping with Longing in Grief
[Reviewed and updated August 24, 2026]
To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die. ~ Thomas Campbell
A reader writes: At the age of 47, I have suddenly lost the most significant person in my whole life. He was my first and only true love. I just cannot go on. I will not harm myself but I know my heart needs to find his. I am empty -- lifeless without him -- I sometimes lay my head down at night and want him to come to me and take me with him. I have not felt his presence and crave it every single second of every single day. I have lost many people close to me including my dad but this pain is unbearable. I don't believe I have ever loved this deeply in my life and I have many loved ones around me. The only comfort I crave is to be in his arms again -- so I ache for something that I will never have.Understanding and Managing Grief, May 8 - May 14, 2022
New research identifies key determinants of bereavement intensity. Understanding Grief in the Shadow of COVID-19 « Psychology Today
If someone you love has died during the novel coronavirus pandemic, you have come to grief in an exceptionally challenging moment in history . . . These and other pandemic-related barriers to the cultural grief rituals we rely on may be making your grief journey especially painful. Ten Freedoms for Using Ceremony During The Pandemic « AfterTalk
Pet Loss: Still Mourning, 3 Years Later
The bond with a dog is as lasting as the ties of this earth can ever be. ~ Konrad Lorenz
In Grief: Longing to Feel A Loved One’s Presence After Death
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A reader writes: At the age of 47, I have suddenly lost the most significant person in my whole life. He was my first and only true love. I just cannot go on. I will not harm myself but I know my heart needs to find his. I am empty -- lifeless without him -- I sometimes lay my head down at night and want him to come to me and take me with him. I have not felt his presence and crave it every single second of every single day. I have lost many people close to me including my dad but this pain is unbearable. I don't believe I have ever loved this deeply in my life and I have many loved ones around me. The only comfort I crave is to be in his arms again -- so I ache for something that I will never have.
Understanding and Managing Grief, September 13 - September 19, 2020
Learn about mourning rituals that validate loss during social isolation in our interview with death doula and activist Michelle Acciavatti. When Funerals Move Online, How Can We Create Mourning Rituals That Truly Validate Loss? « Seven Ponds Blog
Understanding and Managing Grief, March 17 - March 23, 2019
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Disenfranchised: A Grief Counselor Discusses Losing Her Job, http://bit.ly/2trW28h « The Atlantic
What If the Deceased is Despised? http://j.mp/2TQYRiY « Hospice Matters
Bereavement Researcher: We Must Do Better for the Grief-Stricken, http://j.mp/2Whyy2h « NextAvenue
What If the Deceased is Despised? http://j.mp/2TQYRiY « Hospice Matters
Bereavement Researcher: We Must Do Better for the Grief-Stricken, http://j.mp/2Whyy2h « NextAvenue
Understanding and Managing Grief, February 17 - February 23, 2019
The hierarchy of grief is real - and that's okay. Every grief is valid. http://j.mp/2GFhwHH « Refuge in Grief
Please Know: I Love Talking About My Child Who Died, http://j.mp/2GIaZMc « Still Standing Magazine
“End Game” Nominated for an Academy Award, http://j.mp/2GBinJi « Seven Ponds Blog
Understanding and Managing Grief, January 20 - January 26, 2019
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
The Captivating World of Mary Oliver, http://j.mp/2RKw66y « TIME
“Get Over It,” http://j.mp/2ROTXC0 « Grief Compass
The Captivating World of Mary Oliver, http://j.mp/2RKw66y « TIME
“Get Over It,” http://j.mp/2ROTXC0 « Grief Compass
I Died Too, http://j.mp/2RLpipk « Better Not Bitter Widower
Understanding and Managing Grief, April 8 - April 14, 2018
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
After the Funeral, There's the Quiet, http://j.mp/2HwpO25 « Widower's Grief
On sudden upsurges of grief: Riptide, http://j.mp/2GYpOqK « Bryan C. Taylor
Picking a Fight with God: The Positives of Anger, http://j.mp/2HwjlEo « Crossroads Hospice and Palliative Care
After the Funeral, There's the Quiet, http://j.mp/2HwpO25 « Widower's Grief
On sudden upsurges of grief: Riptide, http://j.mp/2GYpOqK « Bryan C. Taylor
Picking a Fight with God: The Positives of Anger, http://j.mp/2HwjlEo « Crossroads Hospice and Palliative Care
Voices of Experience: Death of a Friend and the Lesson of Feathers
Julie Siri, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker with over 25 years' experience in death, dying and bereavement. She is a seasoned hospice worker, grief therapist, dynamic speaker and educator, having taught several years at Whittier College and as a guest lecturer at the University of Southern California, UCLA and Keck Medical School. Here Julie describes how the death of a dear friend helped her learn one of life's most important lessons ~ that although death ends the life of a loved one, the relationship we have with that person doesn't end; it changes form. And if we pay close attention, reminders are everywhere.
In Grief: Sifting and Sorting A Loved One's Personal Belongings
The best linking object, if it can be called that, is the love you feel for the departed. Wherever you go, whatever you do, this love is always with you. ~ Harriet Hodgson
A reader writes: It is going on two months since my dad passed away and I am doing a little better now than when I last wrote to you. I still have my real sad days though about him and mom at times. I have been to the cemetery a couple of times also to visit their graves. I still miss them terribly . . .What is a very hard process for me right now is doing away with my parents’ personal belongings.
Understanding and Managing Grief, February 11 - February 17, 2018
When Grief Causes Guilt, http://j.mp/2EwAsrk « Second Firsts
Go First, Say Their Name, http://j.mp/2EuRpT3 « Grief Compass
My Guide to Finding Love After Loss, http://j.mp/2EuHuwO « Modern Loss
Understanding and Managing Grief, August 20 - August 26, 2017
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
“Closure” by Kelly Farley, http://j.mp/2wxsWb5 « Grieving Dads
Grief Healing Discussion Groups is part of Option B's Group Directory and follows its community guidelines, http://j.mp/2w8lNLF « Option B
The Hollow Days, http://j.mp/2wrrmaw «Widower's Grief
“Closure” by Kelly Farley, http://j.mp/2wxsWb5 « Grieving Dads
Grief Healing Discussion Groups is part of Option B's Group Directory and follows its community guidelines, http://j.mp/2w8lNLF « Option B
The Hollow Days, http://j.mp/2wrrmaw «Widower's Grief
Understanding and Managing Grief, June 11 - June 17, 2017
Heidi Horsley on Sibling Loss: "Finding Hope and Transforming My Life,” http://j.mp/2tz25Gu « OptionB
A Funeral Sermon for My Friend Who Committed Suicide, http://j.mp/2sy4nIG « CCC Discover
Coping with Grief on Father’s Day: Selected Resources, http://j.mp/1tlWtPh « Grief Healing
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