Doesn't Hospice Really Kill People? http://j.mp/1Vxhi2c « HuffPost 50
A Moment of Death Guide, http://j.mp/1NAAl5T « Barbara Karnes, RN
“The Music of My Life”: A Life Review Through Music, http://j.mp/204IKLD « National Hospice Foundation
Caregiving and Hospice, January 24 - January 30, 2016
Doesn't Hospice Really Kill People? http://j.mp/1Vxhi2c « HuffPost 50
A Moment of Death Guide, http://j.mp/1NAAl5T « Barbara Karnes, RN
“The Music of My Life”: A Life Review Through Music, http://j.mp/204IKLD « National Hospice Foundation
Understanding and Managing Grief, January 24 - January 30, 2016
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
8 Things To Remember When Everything Is Going Wrong, http://j.mp/1nv7dYy « Medical Health News
'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process http://j.mp/1KI5TH7 « HuffPost Healthy Living
Crazy with Grief, http://j.mp/1Kb7ESc « What to Say When Someone Dies
8 Things To Remember When Everything Is Going Wrong, http://j.mp/1nv7dYy « Medical Health News
'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process http://j.mp/1KI5TH7 « HuffPost Healthy Living
Crazy with Grief, http://j.mp/1Kb7ESc « What to Say When Someone Dies
Coping with Pet Loss, January 24 - January 30, 2016
Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Helping People After an Animal Companion Dies, http://j.mp/1SaWQ9X « GriefPerspectives
Helping People After an Animal Companion Dies, http://j.mp/1SaWQ9X « GriefPerspectives
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Voices of Experience: The Weight of Things Un-named (on Where to Go with the Heavy Things)
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When nothing makes sense anymore I turn to the ocean and to the river. I have found that grief is a grindstone and so is the ocean.
My friend had twins in 2015, one of them drastically sick. She has spent most of his five months with him in hospital. On New Year’s day he stopped breathing. The ambulance came, rushed him again to the hospital. I do not know what will happen with the little boy. Neither does she. What a way to start the new year. She told me that it is, “hard to know where to go with these experiences”. I wholeheartedly agreed. No words.
Caregiving and Hospice, January 17 - January 23, 2016
When the Body Says No -- Caring for ourselves while caring for others, http://j.mp/1QpEsbm « YouTube
Please, Ask Me a Question, http://j.mp/23jth9m « The Unprepared Caregiver
5 things you should know about Medicare's new end-of-life discussions, http://j.mp/1PJcyT4 « PBS NewsHour
Understanding and Managing Grief, January 17 - January 23, 2016
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
'You are not here, and I miss you...Still,' http://j.mp/1Qq6Av3 « Soaring Spirits International
David Bowie and the Rise of the Grief Police, http://j.mp/1QpBzaP « The Atlantic
Seven Steps to Decuttering Your Grief: The Spark Joy Approach, http://j.mp/1Qhc3CC « Open to Hope
'You are not here, and I miss you...Still,' http://j.mp/1Qq6Av3 « Soaring Spirits International
David Bowie and the Rise of the Grief Police, http://j.mp/1QpBzaP « The Atlantic
Seven Steps to Decuttering Your Grief: The Spark Joy Approach, http://j.mp/1Qhc3CC « Open to Hope
Pet Loss: Deciding When to Bury The Body
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Even out of unspeakable grief, beautiful things take wing. ~ A.R. Torres
A reader writes: I hope you don't mind if I vent to you, since I feel so very safe in your caring heart, and I'm just falling apart here lately, so need that professional and personal understanding only someone like you can give.
I’ve just returned from a two-week trip with my dear husband, who went all-out in planning our get-away, knowing how down I was about the death of [my cat]. I'd hoped this trip would somewhat rejuvinate me before I had to plan for the first anniversary of her death, and likely burial on the same day. But I'm finding I'm still not feeling at all ready to give up her body, even now.
Caregiving and Hospice, January 10 - January 16, 2016
Physician-assisted suicide is not a failure of palliative care, http://j.mp/1OowLQn « Canadian Family Physician
Navigating Hospice Care with a Reluctant Caregiver, http://j.mp/1P5kUdu « Pallimed
My Right to Die: Assisted Suicide, My Family, and Me, http://j.mp/1OTEwzf « Mother Jones
Understanding and Managing Grief, January 10 - January 16, 2016
Thanks to my colleagues for these
Kudos for Grief Healing on Social Media This Week:
Twitter: "9 Best Twitter Feeds for Grief and Loss," http://j.mp/1PtIKd4 « Walker Funeral Home, @WalkerCares
Grief Healing Blog: "A vote for the fantastic site Grief Healing as Best Health Blog!" http://j.mp/1JVkEbn « ADEC Headquarters @ADECnews
Facebook: #FollowFriday @2healthylife @GriefHealing @ElaineMansfiel7 for being top influencers in my community this week :) « @BarbaraKarnesRN
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Kudos for Grief Healing on Social Media This Week:
Twitter: "9 Best Twitter Feeds for Grief and Loss," http://j.mp/1PtIKd4 « Walker Funeral Home, @WalkerCares
Grief Healing Blog: "A vote for the fantastic site Grief Healing as Best Health Blog!" http://j.mp/1JVkEbn « ADEC Headquarters @ADECnews
Facebook: #FollowFriday @2healthylife @GriefHealing @ElaineMansfiel7 for being top influencers in my community this week :) « @BarbaraKarnesRN
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Coping with Pet Loss, January 10 - January 16, 2016
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Pets and Grief, http://j.mp/1SVt0F9 « Widower's Grief
What to Know About Hospice and Palliative Care for Ailing Pets, http://j.mp/1Rq7FnZ « VetStreet
Pets and Grief, http://j.mp/1SVt0F9 « Widower's Grief
What to Know About Hospice and Palliative Care for Ailing Pets, http://j.mp/1Rq7FnZ « VetStreet
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In Grief: Lesbian Widow Finds No Support in Group
A reader writes: My heart is breaking. My partner died some time ago and it feels like it was yesterday. I have had some very bad news about my health and I think I have been needing my partner to be here now. I just feel my heart can bear no more. My soul feels empty without her. I feel so different and it is so hard. I need to find other lesbians who have lost their spouse.
I tried out a grief support group yesterday and it was painfully hard. During the introductory "check in," one member who was just after me actually said she would not be able to continue if I was allowed to stay in the group. She said lesbianism is a sin.
I looked to the facilitator after this woman made the comment expecting she would say something—anything but nothing. Her body language told me that she was appalled but no words came from her mouth. She looked to the next person to begin their "check in." I felt like I did not matter. I sat there for about 10 minutes more and then just got up and literally ran out of the room. The facilitator did run after me and said please don't leave. I did not turn around, I just kept running all the way to my car and drove home.
I tried out a grief support group yesterday and it was painfully hard. During the introductory "check in," one member who was just after me actually said she would not be able to continue if I was allowed to stay in the group. She said lesbianism is a sin.
I looked to the facilitator after this woman made the comment expecting she would say something—anything but nothing. Her body language told me that she was appalled but no words came from her mouth. She looked to the next person to begin their "check in." I felt like I did not matter. I sat there for about 10 minutes more and then just got up and literally ran out of the room. The facilitator did run after me and said please don't leave. I did not turn around, I just kept running all the way to my car and drove home.
Well, the facilitator and I spoke today and she apologized to me for not speaking up in the moment. She said she was just so shocked in the moment that it rendered her speechless. She asked me what I needed now. I asked if she had spoken to the woman. She said she had not yet as she wanted to check in with me first to see what I needed. I said what I need is to come back to the group and have an opportunity to say how that comment affected me and that I have every right to come to a grief support group as anyone else. I am angry that not only do I have to experience the pain of losing my partner but I also have to experience the pain of people who are ignorant and intolerant of lesbians. It complicates my loss and makes me so angry that if I could climb the tallest mountain that you know and scream at the top of my lungs for the rest of my life, it would only touch the pain I feel at times. I did not choose lesbianism, I was born a lesbian.
It was a good exchange I had with the facilitator and I will go to the next group and see what develops. My partner’s life mattered, my life matters and I will keep honoring the love that she and I shared till the day I die and we will be together again. I am going to have a voice about how that comment affected me and how it complicates my process on reframing my life without my partner. Right or wrong, in front of everyone I am going to speak on my feeling and thoughts that the facilitator did not intervene immediately as well. Read on here >>>
Caregiving and Hospice, January 3 - January 9, 2016
At the end of life, medicine truly becomes an art, http://j.mp/1TJXc4h « Kevin MD
Baby Boomers' Last Revolution Will Be Changing the Way We Die, Part 1, http://j.mp/1ONWtkr « HuffPost Healthy Living
Forcing Fluids At End Of Life, http://j.mp/1IRssxN « Barbara Karnes Books, Inc.
Understanding and Managing Grief, January 3 - January 9, 2016
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Re-Imagining Grief: When Family and Culture Offer No Help, http://j.mp/1mJRDIr « Open to Hope
Mother Loss: What Death Taught Me, http://j.mp/1JwF3ql « HuffPost GPS for the Soul
Ongoing Relationships With Those Who Have Died, http://j.mp/1Rc4wYG « What's Your Grief?
Re-Imagining Grief: When Family and Culture Offer No Help, http://j.mp/1mJRDIr « Open to Hope
Mother Loss: What Death Taught Me, http://j.mp/1JwF3ql « HuffPost GPS for the Soul
Ongoing Relationships With Those Who Have Died, http://j.mp/1Rc4wYG « What's Your Grief?
A Wish For The New Year
Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me. ~ Jill Jackson / Mark Miller
I join with my favorite psychiatrist in wishing everyone "peace and continued growth as you walk in beauty in the healing light of love."
Related Articles and Resources:
- Webcast: New Year's Resolution: Dealing with Anger
- Make A New Year's Resolution to Lean Into Grief
- New Year After Death
- New Year Resolutions in Caregiving and Bereavement
Caregiving and Hospice, December 27 - January 2, 2016
Songs of Transition, http://j.mp/1mTCyEm « The New York Times
Protecting Yourself…From the Future, http://j.mp/22yTTTs « The Unprepared Caregiver
Families caring for families, http://j.mp/1OqSCU3 « GeriPal
Understanding and Managing Grief, December 27 - January 2, 2016
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Powerful: What do grown children owe abusive parents? http://j.mp/1YWAzjZ « Slate
Coping with New Years Eve Blues, http://j.mp/1mt2eHl « What's Your Grief?
Helping Your Parents Deal with Loss, http://j.mp/1Or64Y8 « Hospice of the Red River Valley
Powerful: What do grown children owe abusive parents? http://j.mp/1YWAzjZ « Slate
Coping with New Years Eve Blues, http://j.mp/1mt2eHl « What's Your Grief?
Helping Your Parents Deal with Loss, http://j.mp/1Or64Y8 « Hospice of the Red River Valley
Coping with Pet Loss, December 27 - January 2, 2016
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
The Worst Things to Say to a Grieving Pet Owner, http://j.mp/1P29QYw « About.com
Hallucinations and Grief, http://j.mp/1SjdhPU « On Being
Saying Goodbye to Gari, http://j.mp/1MBYd8O « Embrace Transition
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The Worst Things to Say to a Grieving Pet Owner, http://j.mp/1P29QYw « About.com
Hallucinations and Grief, http://j.mp/1SjdhPU « On Being
Saying Goodbye to Gari, http://j.mp/1MBYd8O « Embrace Transition
Your feedback is welcome! Please feel free to leave a comment or a question, or share a tip, a related article or a resource of your own in the Comments section below.
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