To Move or Not? Making Decisions in the Wake of Recent Loss

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In Grief: Making Big Decisions After Major Loss

A reader writes: Two months ago we lost our 18-year-old son in a traffic accident just two blocks from our home. He was driving alone. We are talking about moving because my wife can't drive by the intersection anymore and does not feel comfortable in the home. I need some advice on the subject of moving. Would this be good, bad, or too soon? Would we regret a move later down the road? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

Caregiving and Hospice, April 21 - April 27, 2013

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Do patients need to know they are terminally ill? http://j.mp/12vGADT « GeriPal

Pet benefits: Vitamin P: The Secret to Health and Longevity, http://j.mp/181opcq « Huffington Post

A new approach to end-of-life and death, http://j.mp/12niif9 « Everplans

Tech Startup Helps You Manage Death of Loved One, http://on.wsj.com/12GyhV7 « Wall Street Journal

PTSD in caregivers following expected death http://ow.ly/kmJMh « Palliative Medicine Journal

Understanding and Managing Grief, April 21 - April 27, 2013

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

National Victims of Crime Week to increase understanding of Homicide Grief, http://bit.ly/11sVLul « Aftermath of Murder Survivor Stories

Powerful post on Lessons Learned: 6, http://j.mp/14YKyJV « Widow's Voice

Is it Harder to Mourn an Actual Loss or Loss of an Ideal You Never Had? http://j.mp/163b2cf « GoodTherapy.org

Hundreds of death, grief, thanatology experts gather at ADEC conference this week, http://huff.to/15YN2XK « Huffington Post

Book Review: “Closer Than You Think” discusses After-Death Communication, http://j.mp/11ZgXZi « SevenPonds Blog

Coping with Pet Loss, April 21 - April 27, 2013

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Pet remembrance service aims to provide support, http://j.mp/186f1BF « Traverse City Record-Eagle

How to know when to euthanize your pet, http://j.mp/13zVV6h « Yahoo! Shine

Farewell to My Friend, http://j.mp/ZMOrwz « Write from the Heart

Beautifully told story of petloss: Au Revoir! http://j.mp/Y07sgN « Ezine Articles

Assessing Quality of Life in Our Animals, http://j.mp/11zmNjT « Psychology Today

When Grief Seems Insignificant by Comparison

As news about mass shootings continues to flood the airwaves, our hearts go out to the victims, survivors, and others who witnessed these horrific events, as well as to the people living in those places. As a nation we express our collective condolences, offer our heartfelt prayers, and work to contribute whatever we can toward their healing.  Read on here >>>

Caregiving and Hospice, April 14 - April 20, 2013

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Positioning with pillows as a comfort in hospice caregiving, http://j.mp/11qKYko « Caring with Confidence

A hospice volunteer who happens to be a dog named Rosie, http://ow.ly/kbUIy « Miami Herald

LIFE'S END: Hospice care more available than thought http://bit.ly/11fqg6X « Missoulian

NHPCO and NFDA Announce a New Collaboration, http://bit.ly/15hjX9B « PRWeb

How Do You Describe Hospice, and When Do You Suggest It? http://j.mp/YxmDsC « ONS Connect

Understanding and Managing Grief, April 14 - April 20, 2013

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Your Wedding Day after a Loss, http://j.mp/ZE7lBE « What's Your Grief

Sibling Loss: The Forgotten Griever, http://j.mp/17wnoWK  by Caroline Flohr, author of Heaven's Child

Poem: “My Daddy’s #Grief” « Grieving Dads Project http://j.mp/XUYGRa

Yes. Robert Slayton: Let Us Grieve First, http://j.mp/17sXxiw « HuffPost Healthy Living

Surviving the Unthinkable,  http://j.mp/XJzlaC « The Grief Toolbox

Coping with Pet Loss, April 14 - April 20, 2013

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Good article about dealing with pet loss, http://j.mp/102ZQUT « Florida Today

A Different Grief: Coping with Pet Loss, http://j.mp/15oROxH

Betrayal, Fear of Separation and Unresolved Grief

[Reviewed and updated October 11, 2025]

Disappointments in love, even betrayals and losses, serve the soul at the very moment they seem in life to be tragedies. The soul is partly in time and partly in eternity. We might remember the part that resides in eternity when we feel despair over the part that is in life. ~ Thomas Moore, in Care of the Soul

A reader writes: I am a soldier in the US Army recently returned from deployment overseas. I spent a year there and found out last December that my wife had been in love with a Catholic priest for 3 years unbeknownst to me (he was a friend of the family). She never let on to him that she was in love, however, her devotion to him was very intense. I know this from their emails, friends and my wife’s own admission. They were rarely alone together, and did nothing untoward with each other (physically). My wife allowed me to believe that the emotional distance between us was caused by my neglect of the relationship and nothing else.

Caregiving and Hospice, April 7 - April 13, 2013

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Change the warfare metaphors when it comes to illness, http://j.mp/ZUxSSq « KevinMD.com

Smart! Hospice develops app to speed patient referral, education, access to care, http://bit.ly/157fwys via @ctsinclair and @abbrody

When Caregiving Ends and Grieving Begins, http://j.mp/16UmlkW « The Grief Toolbox

Jennifer Aniston's Guide to Friendship: Keep It Old,  http://bit.ly/10IxAsR « Brainstorm

Beautiful: An Open Letter to Men Who Are Caregivers,  http://j.mp/1722jDw « Leeza's Place