When Hospice Care Fails A Family

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The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.  ~ Henry Ford

A reader writes: I lost my husband from a cancer. He was a fighter and I stood by him day and night all the way for seven months. I watched him deteriorate to a skeleton and when hospice was called in they did such a horrible job by letting him suffer that I cannot forgive myself for me having to shove pain medicine into his mouth will a little bit of water in a straw. I still hear him asking me what are you doing to me? Are you trying to kill me? and he was in such pain. I hate hospice for letting this happen.

Caregiving and Hospice, February 15 - February 21, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

We’ll all die one day. Isn’t it time we got used to the idea? http://j.mp/1zwqcRZ « The Guardian

Let's break the association of palliative care as hospice, http://j.mp/1CWhTQF « Kevin MD

Pet Shop for Dementia Patients Improves Happiness and Behavior, http://j.mp/1Lqwkmi « Alzheimer's Reading Room

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 15 - February 21, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Art of Grieving, http://j.mp/1qDNYXP « Peace Through Grief

A Response to the Online Flurry About "Complicated Grief," http://j.mp/1MI2MCv « Personal Growth and Grief Support Center

5 Ideas for Facing Deathiversaries, http://j.mp/1F9Z8eO « Modern Loss

Coping with Pet Loss, February 15 - February 21, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Private, Closed Pet Loss Support Group on Facebook, http://bit.ly/1Arq0t9 « The Ralph Site

Elk Rapids, MI Organization to Create Hospice for Homeless Senior Dogs, http://j.mp/1Mxab7w « Up North Live

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Voices of Experience: Growing A New Heart

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by Harry Proudfoot

Plants do not grow merely to satisfy ambitions or to fulfill good intentions. They thrive because someone expended effort on them.  ~ Liberty Hyde Bailey

Jane and I loved house plants in the winter. They brightened things. Jane got into creating topiaries at one point and created a heart from an old coat hanger and an English ivy. When Jane was in the hospital, I rarely got home, but when I did I made sure everything got a good drink. When I came home after she died, we had lost just one of the plants--the topiary heart. The symbolism was not lost on me.

Caregiving and Hospice, February 8 - February 14, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Excellent Review of PBS FRONTLINE's Being Mortal with Dr. Atul Gawande,  http://j.mp/1Anj3Ys « Pallimed

Researchers Identify 8 Signs of Impending Death, http://j.mp/1KMzaA6 « WebMD

Staff Concerned "We Are Starving Mom To Death," http://j.mp/17fVlCr  « Barbara Karnes Books, Inc.

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 8 - February 14, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grief Rituals Can Help on Valentine's Day, http://bit.ly/gZTzkp « Grief Healing Blog

Facebook Offers New Options For Digital Life After Death, http://j.mp/1AxG5fo « NPR

Loving Differently, http://j.mp/1vIn8q5 « Widower's Grief

Coping with Pet Loss, February 8 - February 14, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Beyond Nine Lives: Hospice Care Can Support Pets Too, http://j.mp/1D5VwNL « Reston Now

Pet Loss: Euthanizing An Aggressive Dog, http://j.mp/1vdgvGp « Grief Healing Blog

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Pet Loss: Euthanizing An Aggressive Dog

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My personal feeling is that when faced with certain harm to a human or euthanasia for a pet... the human health and safety considerations take precedence. It is a "no win" situation for the family and the dog; but living in constant fear of injury from an unprovoked and unpredictable attack by an animal truly diminishes anyone's quality of life. ~ T.J. Dunn, Jr., DVM

A reader writes: I have a different kind of situation, one I grieve, but mostly feel guilty about. I adopted a puppy, loved it and took care of it. After a while, I noticed some aggressive tendencies, but underestimated the problem. It grew worse, and eventually there was nothing I could do. I put the dog to sleep. Now I feel really guilty about not knowing enough to do something. I do miss her terribly. I had her for a year and a half. Is it normal to grieve about this - for a pet I loved who turned aggressive, and for putting her down?

Caregiving and Hospice, February 1 - February 7, 2015

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The line between comfort care and murder, http://j.mp/16Dlw59 « Kevin MD

8 Factors Experts Use To Identify The Best Care For a Loved One, http://j.mp/1unVcH6 « The Caregiver Partnership

Have You Lost That Lovin’ Feeling? http://j.mp/1zsEw1w « The Intentional Caregiver
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