When Hospice Care Fails to Meet Caregiver's Expectations

The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.  ~ Henry Ford

A reader writes: I lost my husband from a cancer. He was a fighter and I stood by him day and night all the way for seven months. I watched him deteriorate to a skeleton and when hospice was called in they did such a horrible job by letting him suffer that I cannot forgive myself for me having to shove pain medicine into his mouth with a little bit of water in a straw. I still hear him asking me what are you doing to me? Are you trying to kill me? and he was in such pain. I hate hospice for letting this happen.

Understanding and Managing Grief, April 22 - April 28, 2018

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Secondary Losses,  http://j.mp/2I4c5Qd « Bryan C. Taylor

Interview: Current Research on Grief Responses, http://j.mp/2FmqbJZ « Open To Hope Radio

Beating A Dead Horse, Or At Least The Word Dead, http://j.mp/2FlnQiq « Laurie Grad

When Hospice Care Fails A Family

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When Hospice Care Fails to Meet Caregiver's Expectations

A reader writes: I lost my husband from a cancer. He was a fighter and I stood by him day and night all the way for seven months. I watched him deteriorate to a skeleton and when hospice was called in they did such a horrible job by letting him suffer that I cannot forgive myself for me having to shove pain medicine into his mouth will a little bit of water in a straw. I still hear him asking me what are you doing to me? Are you trying to kill me? and he was in such pain. I hate hospice for letting this happen.

They did nothing for my husband and damaged me inside. I loved my husband for forty years and I did everything in my power to help him and keep him comfortable and then this happened in the end. I am so lonely now without him I want to cry all the time, I want him to hold me and tell me he loves me as we did everyday. Help me I am falling in the cracks of life.

Understanding and Managing Grief, July 1 - July 7, 2012

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• Using Failure as Feedback When Mourning, http://j.mp/N4SsDC
  
  
• Useful article collection on Life After Loss, http://j.mp/LDyBLG ‪| Psychology Today
  
  
• Powerful message: Second Chances, http://j.mp/LT6uuQ ‪| Grief Digest Magazine
  
  
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