Sunday, April 7, 2024

Understanding and Managing Grief, March 31 - April 6, 2024

Best selections from Grief Healing's X feed this week:

A new sense of urgency has emerged for healthcare organizations to develop "sustainable and accessible bereavement care" and to cultivate a "bereavement-conscious" workforce to position bereavement as an "inherent element of the duty of care," authors of a recent opinion piece asserted. Incorporating Bereavement Into the Continuum of Care « MedPage Today

Fatigue, headaches, stomach pain and a higher risk of heart disease. Although these things may not make you think of grief at first, many people who experience a significant loss have these and other physical symptoms. How the Body Reacts to Grief, and What It Can Mean « WebMD

If we sit with our anger long enough, we discover it is grief. That grief has often built up over time, and is made up of the small disappointments and larger losses we experience over our life span—what in Buddhist psychology are often referred to as "little deaths." Post-modern psychology might characterize this same experience as a sort of demure complex trauma—water dripping on the rock of our resilience, wearing down what was once an elastic temerity and assurance. Grief’s Dance of Anger « Psychology Today

The death of a parent is a loss like no other. Our relationships with our parents shape the fiber of who we are. Without them in our lives, a significant piece of our identity may irrevocably change. When unresolved feelings or even estrangement remains, the loss of one’s parents can be even more complicated. Becoming an adult orphan can be one of the hardest life transitions a person can experience. For me, the loss of my dad felt like the end of an era and the loss of my moral anchor. It was as if I had entered a new level of adulthood. A new path needed to be forged, and all of the familiar guideposts had suddenly shifted. Orphaned in Adulthood: Grieving the Loss of Your Parents « Grief Watch

Our parents are “supposed” to go first. If using the “natural order or things” argument, then a parent dying before their child is what’s supposed to happen. But does that make it any less painful? That seems to be an assumption. When something is “supposed” to happen that we’re somehow better equipped to handle it. But so many other painful things happen in life that are “supposed” to: children growing and moving from our homes, beloved pets living for so fewer years then we’d want them to, even the sale of a home or leaving a career when we’re “supposed” to… These all represent significant life loss and life change, for which most will find a network willing to talk and listen about the challenges related to each. And yet I’ve seen so many people struggle to find support and understanding when facing the loss of a parent, and it only serves to amplify the grief and isolation they feel. Coping with the Loss of a Parent « Grief Watch

In an ageist culture, we often set ourselves up for failure by trying to turn the clock against time and delay ageing. While the human world views ageing as a punishment, Gulte seems perfectly capable, even happy, to embrace the weight of the years he has lived. He no longer kicks up dirt in our garden but rules over it as his kingdom, enjoying the afternoon sun with the visiting pigeons, squirrels and crows. My ageing dog taught me to stop borrowing grief from the future « Vogue

Grief is a complex process, always new. No loss hurts the same as others, we start from zero each time — at least that’s what I’ve learned. When I first lost someone I loved, I had lost a dear teacher. Back then, it took all my beliefs and knowledge about death to come to terms with the news. I guess it’s part of our survival instinct as human beings to take whatever there is to keep going. I repeated to myself “he’s in a better place now,” “he’s healthy and happy wherever he is now,” “he left a legacy of love,” and “he lives and will live through those who loved him.” I found comfort in those sentences, in those beliefs. Yet I only realized later on that grief was a long process: it took me years to listen to the music I associated with the news of his passing without crying. Navigating The Many Pathways Of Grief « The Gazelle

Research has documented how this task can exert an intense physical and emotional toll. This can be more intense for those who had strained – or even traumatic – relationships with the person whose house they’re packing up. Decisions around distributing or discarding items can, in some families, bring up painful reminders of the past or end up replaying strained dynamics. How to Look After Your Mental Health While Packing Up Mum or Dad's Home « The Conversation

Research studies confirm that the practice of meditation and mindfulness changes our brains and our lives; reduces pain, anxiety, confusion and stress; boosts the immune system; and increases concentration, focus and compassion, among its many other benefits. In addition, the practice of meditation and mindfulness can assist us in healing our grief, because it helps us live in the present moment...where our grief resides. Meditation and Mindfulness in Grief « Grief Healing

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