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Making Room for New Love after Loss: Hope, Healing, and Resources

And think not that you can direct the course of love, for love, if it's worthy, directs your course.  ~ Khalil Gibran

A reader writes: I have insight into my growth through grief these past 2 years. At first it was a tight shell around me, I couldn't let anyone in. Now it's a softer cocoon. I empathize with newly bereaved in a way I never got before. I sit, I'm patient, I listen.

I feel room in my heart for a new life partner while maintaining my connection with my deceased husband. How did I get here? I met a guy, a widower, he gets it! He gets me. I get him. It's new, I'm hopeful. I miss my deceased husband daily and I'm "in like" with a new man. I have room in my heart yet it feels awkward -- and hopeful.

Marty, do you have resources on new love after bereavement? Your articles are always on target. Thanks, truly.

My response: Blessings to you, dear one, for your willingness to grow through your grief and (as you say) feel room in your heart for a new life partner while maintaining your connection with your deceased husband. Breaking out of that cocoon is not an easy task, but I commend you for your courage and your willingness to try. As you have discovered, we humans have an infinite capacity to love, and if we so choose and if we are ready, our hearts most certainly are big enough to expand and make room to hold another. I wish you and your new partner every happiness ~ and here is a list of resources I've gathered for you, which I hope you will find useful and informative:








Please know that there is no “right” timetable for any of this, and the path you are on is uniquely your own. Trust what your heart is showing you: that love can stretch, deepen, and take on new shapes without diminishing what came before. I am honored that you turned to me with your story, and I hope these resources offer comfort, clarity, and companionship as you continue to grow. May this new chapter unfold with tenderness, patience, and the quiet confidence that you are exactly where you need to be.

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