tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post942018424899401293..comments2023-06-27T07:12:47.910-04:00Comments on Grief Healing: Is Pet Loss Comparable to Loss of a Loved One?Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-28683549776851398972013-03-15T02:47:08.900-04:002013-03-15T02:47:08.900-04:00I would like to add my input in this matter. My so...I would like to add my input in this matter. My son was 8 1/2 when we laid down our family pet. She was there when he was born. He was devastated/heartbroken/grieving for 2 years before he started to finally accept and move into a healing state of mind.<br /><br />Fast forward to 13 years old. The new family pet became his everything. Bruiser was a brute but to my son he was his heart, confidant, and protector. He would sit in the backyard and talk to him about things he needed to get out. We laid Bruiser down due to a tumor in his belly. To this day my son has momentos, locks of his hair, and will still tear up thinking about him.<br /><br />Is this the same as how badly he will grieve when his Grandma, my mom, dies? No. That will be ten times worse. But to come to a site such as this and see his grief as justified and okay helps him to move forward with support and help and a feeling of being okay. I appreciate seeing animals on here for that reason.<br /><br />Thank you.<br />http://motherswhohavelostachild.com/<br />https://www.facebook.com/kevinspire88?ref=hlmotherswhohavelostachild.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-23162876420225100412012-12-30T15:42:44.555-05:002012-12-30T15:42:44.555-05:00Eirinn and Marianne, I am grateful for your very k...Eirinn and Marianne, I am grateful for your very kind comments. Needless to say, I agree with both of you ♥Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-27942982168690408152012-12-30T08:57:55.576-05:002012-12-30T08:57:55.576-05:00Thank you for your answer to the letter about pet ...Thank you for your answer to the letter about pet loss. First - my heart goes out to the person sending the letter for the losses and the deep grief the person is going through. As for pet loss on a grief healing site: I personally find it quite normal that pet loss should also be dealt with on a site dealing with grief healing. We are all different - our lives, who we love and bond with and how deeply we do so. We also grieve differently, and in order to create a more compassionate world, we need to not judge but allow others to grieve in their own way - whether they grieve the loss of a human or an animal companion. No grief is lesser than another. Let's reach out and help each other in challenging times, whatever the challenge might be.Mariannehttp://www.healingpetloss.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-3572593277103706942012-12-30T08:38:44.435-05:002012-12-30T08:38:44.435-05:00Dear Marty
Thank you for addressing pet loss as be...Dear Marty<br />Thank you for addressing pet loss as being as important as human loved one loss. <br /><br />When I lost my tabby cat a year and a half ago, it was the most traumatic, painful experience of my life. I know a lot of people would not rate it on the same level as losing a parent or a child, but to me, he WAS my child. <br /><br />An elderly woman who has lost her family or husband and then loses a dog sees that dog AS her family. This is a real pain too, and people need to stop taking the stance that it's "just a pet". <br /><br />It's not "just a mom", "just a dad" or "just a child". It's also not "just a pet". Pets give you love and care indiscriminately when you feel you can't turn to another human being due to ridicule or intolerance. It's this reason that people don't understand pet loss as being a true, real and hurtful loss as well.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01306976981956369531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-78718683224423553842012-07-11T13:48:08.520-04:002012-07-11T13:48:08.520-04:00Marty,
Thanks for your comments to the person who...Marty,<br /><br />Thanks for your comments to the person who objected to having pet loss addressed in your site. That is the very reason people who lose their pet feel isolated and ashamed. I counsel people who have lost their pets and it is very real for them. Anyone who dismisses pet loss is not knowledgeable about this very real kind of grief. Thanks for your site. All the different topics on grief are wonderful and much appreciated!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-79134285636718779952010-10-13T16:45:36.525-04:002010-10-13T16:45:36.525-04:00Marty,
I think you and I are pretty much on the ...Marty, <br /><br />I think you and I are pretty much on the same page with this except for addressing pet loss in the same place. I'd much rather see a separate pet loss site just like you do a separate group for pet loss.<br /><br />SusanSusan @ Survive Your Griefhttp://www.surviveyourgrief.com/griefandloss/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-90362454005550396422010-09-27T15:00:14.375-04:002010-09-27T15:00:14.375-04:00Diana, thank you! I so appreciate your comment, a...Diana, thank you! I so appreciate your comment, and I couldn't agree with you more about making this world a better place. You are doing that with your blog, too ♥Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-57874150528404951632010-09-27T14:54:30.446-04:002010-09-27T14:54:30.446-04:00Excellent article Marty. A loss is a loss is a lo...Excellent article Marty. A loss is a loss is a loss and one persons loss is just as important as your own.<br /><br />I think if everyone was a little kinder, a little more patient and a little more compassionate the world would be a better place.<br /><br />Your words always make so much sense and provied comfort to those of us travelling on this journey of grief.<br />Thank you!<br />love Diana xDiana Doylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959587005117395783noreply@blogger.com