tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post3355983052848661889..comments2023-06-27T07:12:47.910-04:00Comments on Grief Healing: Tips for Coping with Anniversary Reactions in GriefMarty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-79377362964695323962013-01-10T17:48:44.781-05:002013-01-10T17:48:44.781-05:00Your plan sounds absolutely wonderful, Mary Louise...Your plan sounds absolutely wonderful, Mary Louise! Thank you so much for sharing it with us ~ and I so agree with your mantra: "Progress, not perfection." Amen!Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-54399045559287716232013-01-10T17:20:23.668-05:002013-01-10T17:20:23.668-05:00First, thank you for your very kind response. sear...First, thank you for your very kind response. searching your website, i too am sorry for your losses, it is a beautiful tribute to your parents.i have read and re-read what you wrote, all is right on target. Since I'm still in that 'thoughtful' state, and not getting out much, to honor my family I've joined a website to search out my ancestry. My sister had two children before she died, and now her daughter has three children. Sadly, what happened with my birth father's family, also happened with my sister's husband after he re-married...less contact over the years. I can only obtain the information, and pass it on to them, i think this is a good way to honor my family and to keep them alive through memories. My niece and nephew knew my birth family, although they were only 3 and 1.5 when my sister died. Also, I saved maany "things" after my mother's death when cleaning out her house to give to them. Giving a part of their grandmother, what my niece and nephew do remember is another step i can take for healing, giving to bring happiness to them and honoring my mother.<br />Progress, not perfection, <br />gratefully, mary louiseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-57653249343207193842013-01-05T16:22:05.579-05:002013-01-05T16:22:05.579-05:00Dear One, your comments touch my heart, and I’m so...Dear One, your comments touch my heart, and I’m so sorry for all the losses you’ve endured, including the death of your siblings. You say you question the reasons behind your wanting to give whatever you really want to give (to the world, to others) that would give your own life meaning ~ but I would encourage you to follow your heart and do whatever it is calling you to do, regardless of the reasons. We’re all products of whatever has happened to us in life. But what really matters is what we choose to do with what’s happened to us. We can just give up and let our life circumstances defeat us, or we can find and learn the lessons we’ve been given and make those circumstances count for something. For now, your task is raising your boy to manhood, and that certainly is worthy of your best effort. Whatever you decide to do with the rest of your life, if you can dedicate your efforts to the memory of your siblings and live your life in their honor, you will have been successful beyond measure. Please know that I am thinking of you, and wishing you the very best. ♥Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-49138820232066951602013-01-05T13:45:31.860-05:002013-01-05T13:45:31.860-05:00i found your website by chance...well maybe not by...i found your website by chance...well maybe not by chance, as i seek informaation that i'm ready to read, it comes.<br /><br />For me, the day after the death aniv. of my sister, she died at 34, in 1984,,,i have since lost all of my birth family and aunt and uncle...at the age of 53. The loss doesn't seem to go away, period of deep sadness come and go, just as the aniv, come and go each year. Today, i'm in a very thoughtful place, wondering if i've done what i really can with my life. i'm so very proud of my sister and brother's accomplishments...both having overcome many very difficult life challenges to promote a better world. i feel/think i could be doing so much more if i'd not allowed myself to wallow many years away with unproductive actions. i don't know what the future holds for me, my brother died at56, and i am now 59, wondering if i'm living on borowed time. i guess thatis where i need to focus, and work through. another couple of concerns are my son who is 16, with autism...and my own diagnosis of bipolar disorder..under control with wonderful medications that have essentially given my a new life after a hospitalization in 2009. i feel i have so much to give, yet at the same time, i wonder if what i want to give is what "i really want' due to the death of my family. aa a single parent, i do have much on my plate, yet a 'very strong faith' which sustains me and keeps me afloat when i'm doubting myself/accomplishments/life. i so hope one day i will reach a place where i feel accomplished and that i am worthy of being alive, unlike my dear sister and brother who gave their life to medicine and saving the enviornment. i miss my family, despite the truth, as no doubt many families, one doesn't know what a loss is until it happens...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-5361494407258701632012-05-22T13:02:09.885-04:002012-05-22T13:02:09.885-04:00Diana, dear, your comments warm my heart. Thank yo...Diana, dear, your comments warm my heart. Thank you! ♥Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-80595784192264956892012-05-22T12:56:18.004-04:002012-05-22T12:56:18.004-04:00Dear Marty,
Such an informative and true post for...Dear Marty,<br /><br />Such an informative and true post for anyone searching for what to do.<br /><br />Your insight and compassion is healing.<br /><br />with love<br />Diana xDiana Doylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959587005117395783noreply@blogger.com