A reader writes: This just isn’t something I can live with. I want to see my dad more than anything in the world. I can’t even go near the words “closure” or “accept.” My friend, who never lost anyone, even a pet, in her life, told me in a matter-of-fact, cheery voice, “You gotta get over it, right? Pick yourself up. Go out and live life. Your dad would have wanted you to be out there, I bet.” I almost hung up on her. I know she meant well, but I was so upset by that.
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Monday, September 28, 2015
In Grief: Aversion to Thoughts Of "Acceptance" and "Moving On"
A reader writes: This just isn’t something I can live with. I want to see my dad more than anything in the world. I can’t even go near the words “closure” or “accept.” My friend, who never lost anyone, even a pet, in her life, told me in a matter-of-fact, cheery voice, “You gotta get over it, right? Pick yourself up. Go out and live life. Your dad would have wanted you to be out there, I bet.” I almost hung up on her. I know she meant well, but I was so upset by that.
Sunday, September 27, 2015
Caregiving and Hospice, September 20 - September 26, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Having a dog can help your heart — literally, http://j.mp/1gYnFgn « Harvard Health
Ideas For A New Hospice Nurse, http://j.mp/1R5qjhp « Hospice Times
Young People, Suicide Prevention and Social Media, http://j.mp/1YAx9QZ « Psychiatry Advisor
Having a dog can help your heart — literally, http://j.mp/1gYnFgn « Harvard Health
Ideas For A New Hospice Nurse, http://j.mp/1R5qjhp « Hospice Times
Young People, Suicide Prevention and Social Media, http://j.mp/1YAx9QZ « Psychiatry Advisor
Understanding and Managing Grief, September 20 - September 26, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Children in grief: Finding the Right Words, http://j.mp/1LzUbSX « Grief Digest Magazine
Grief and Forgiveness, Part Two: 12 Tips for Self-Forgiveness, http://j.mp/1WjVngh « What's Your Grief?
Insightful: Living on Memory Lane, http://j.mp/1FpD6Ki « Soaring Spirits International
Children in grief: Finding the Right Words, http://j.mp/1LzUbSX « Grief Digest Magazine
Grief and Forgiveness, Part Two: 12 Tips for Self-Forgiveness, http://j.mp/1WjVngh « What's Your Grief?
Insightful: Living on Memory Lane, http://j.mp/1FpD6Ki « Soaring Spirits International
Coping with Pet Loss, September 20 - September 26, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Part 1: What Are the 3 Stages of Pet Hospice Care? http://j.mp/1QuTzNP « Gentle Journey
Make Your Dog’s Last Days His Best Days, http://j.mp/1YvNLtk « Dogtime
Part 1: What Are the 3 Stages of Pet Hospice Care? http://j.mp/1QuTzNP « Gentle Journey
Make Your Dog’s Last Days His Best Days, http://j.mp/1YvNLtk « Dogtime
The Biggest Mistake Pet Owners Make, http://j.mp/1NQ6SuI « HuffPost Green
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Monday, September 21, 2015
Caregiving in Serious Illness: Suggested Resources
Nearly 44 million unpaid caregivers form the backbone of the US chronic and long-term care system. These hard working family members provide care to injured veterans, aging adults, children with special needs, and individuals with chronic medical needs. Currently, 72% of caregivers take care of someone 50 or older. As the Baby Boomer generation ages, the number of people who need care will continue to swell. ~ National Alliance for Caregiving
A reader writes: Can you lend your expertise and provide some resources that will aid in delivering hospice and palliative care to individuals and families who suffer with and alongside serious illness?
My response: Along with the dozens of articles and sites you'll find on my Hospice and Caregiving Pinterest board, I've assembled here a list of websites and resources I hope you will find useful. As always, I invite our readers to add their own suggestions in the Comments section below:
Sunday, September 20, 2015
Caregiving and Hospice, September 13 - September 19, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Why is Death Midwifery Important? An Interview with Pashta MaryMoon, Part 1 http://j.mp/1NK9r19 « Seven Ponds
The question doctors fear most: 'Do you believe in God?' http://j.mp/1iTA1rZ « The Guardian
Burnout: Tips for Family Caregivers, http://j.mp/1Oh0oon « Senior Care Central
Why is Death Midwifery Important? An Interview with Pashta MaryMoon, Part 1 http://j.mp/1NK9r19 « Seven Ponds
The question doctors fear most: 'Do you believe in God?' http://j.mp/1iTA1rZ « The Guardian
Burnout: Tips for Family Caregivers, http://j.mp/1Oh0oon « Senior Care Central
Understanding and Managing Grief, September 13 - September 19, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Grief Bibliography, updated today: Books on grief recommended by the bereaved http://bit.ly/9J8Wa4 « Grief Healing
In grief: Put on a happy face, http://j.mp/1KVvIsn « DEW's Girl
Supporting a Grieving Child? Use Modeling http://j.mp/1Lk5LS8 « What's Your Grief?
Grief Bibliography, updated today: Books on grief recommended by the bereaved http://bit.ly/9J8Wa4 « Grief Healing
In grief: Put on a happy face, http://j.mp/1KVvIsn « DEW's Girl
Supporting a Grieving Child? Use Modeling http://j.mp/1Lk5LS8 « What's Your Grief?
Monday, September 14, 2015
When Delayed Grief Affects Work Performance
I tried to shut out the feelings that were hurting my heart with a thousand tiny pinpricks, which was somehow worse than having it broken all at once. ~ Morgan Matson, in Second Chance Summer
A reader writes: I lost my dad ten months ago, while I was in my last year of nursing school. I had to 'tuck in' the grieving process in order to graduate which was my dad's greatest wish for me. He literally said, "Don't stop school for me." I originally felt rejected by him, but now I see he was protecting me again. He had an 8 month battle with pancreatic cancer that was just horrible.
So, I've graduated from nursing school, passed my state boards, and I wish I could give him a big hug. Now that the stress from school is over, I feel like I need to continue the active grieving.
The problem is that I'm messing up at work, which is not new work for me.
Sunday, September 13, 2015
Caregiving and Hospice, September 6 - September 12, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Zen and the Art of Dying Well, http://j.mp/1OiyGXB « The New York Times
Interesting: Association of American Physicians and Surgeons Comments Opposing CPT Codes for End-of-Life Discussions, http://j.mp/1UHaZrx « AAPS
Zen and the Art of Dying Well, http://j.mp/1OiyGXB « The New York Times
Interesting: Association of American Physicians and Surgeons Comments Opposing CPT Codes for End-of-Life Discussions, http://j.mp/1UHaZrx « AAPS
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Understanding and Managing Grief, September 6 - September 12, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
10 Places Grieving Widows Can Get Help, http://j.mp/1VRQkDD « HuffPost Healthy Living
September 11: Coping with Aftershocks, http://bit.ly/oLsmLl « Grief Healing
In widowhood: Defining Family, http://j.mp/1ULH4yA « Soaring Spirits International
10 Places Grieving Widows Can Get Help, http://j.mp/1VRQkDD « HuffPost Healthy Living
September 11: Coping with Aftershocks, http://bit.ly/oLsmLl « Grief Healing
In widowhood: Defining Family, http://j.mp/1ULH4yA « Soaring Spirits International
Coping with Pet Loss, September 6 - September 12, 2015
Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Using Story To Explain Pet Loss To Children, http://j.mp/1ENwK70 « Grief Healing
Using Story To Explain Pet Loss To Children, http://j.mp/1ENwK70 « Grief Healing
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Monday, September 7, 2015
Using Story To Explain Pet Loss To Children
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Death of a pet may be a young family’s first encounter with significant loss, and one of the questions parents will face is how to explain it to their children. Depending upon their age, personality and level of development at the time, children may have a tough time understanding death and the grief that accompanies significant loss, and parents may be at a loss as to how to explain it to them.
Sunday, September 6, 2015
Caregiving and Hospice, August 30 - September 5, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Is patient-centered care part of the problem? http://j.mp/1KQe5J2 « Kevin M.D.
Empty Pill Bottles Desperately Needed (Take your meds and help others!), http://j.mp/1hpb3iQ « Ginger Ail
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Is patient-centered care part of the problem? http://j.mp/1KQe5J2 « Kevin M.D.
Empty Pill Bottles Desperately Needed (Take your meds and help others!), http://j.mp/1hpb3iQ « Ginger Ail
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Understanding and Managing Grief, August 30 - September 5, 2015
Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:
Getting lost in grief, http://j.mp/1N9Bs0u « What to Say When Someone Dies
Wonderful! How to Write a Condolence Note, http://j.mp/1JFloPh « A Cup of Jo
Wisdom from bereaved mom Maria Kubitz: Forgiveness in Grief, http://j.mp/1N84Fc9 « Open to Hope
Getting lost in grief, http://j.mp/1N9Bs0u « What to Say When Someone Dies
Wonderful! How to Write a Condolence Note, http://j.mp/1JFloPh « A Cup of Jo
Wisdom from bereaved mom Maria Kubitz: Forgiveness in Grief, http://j.mp/1N84Fc9 « Open to Hope