tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post3187438454097327985..comments2023-06-27T07:12:47.910-04:00Comments on Grief Healing: Taking Time to Mourn a Mother's DeathMarty Tousley, RN, MS, FThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05517952534831180171noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-31623501333201950662013-04-01T22:30:31.540-04:002013-04-01T22:30:31.540-04:00Dear Reader - One can't underestimate how diff...Dear Reader - One can't underestimate how difficult it must be for you to conduct what I call a mental "Deathbed Refresh." Side effects are not just words on a page; they represent the haunting visual memories you have that over time, recedes. But if you find that such memories start overtaking the earlier pictures of your mother's vitality - pre-cancer/pre-chemo - I urge you to consider having a portrait of your mother made for you by a digital artist. They will combine all your favorite positive memories of Mom (for example your Mom's favorite vacation spot, dress, dessert, etc.). One look at this refreshing portrait of the familiar, you will feel transformed; able to remember Mom as you believe she would like to be remembered.<br /><br />Marty is familiar with my work, but let me give you a direct link to some examples made simply with existing photos: http://artforyoursake.com/image-gallery?gallery_id=healing. Take care, NancyNancy Gershmanhttp://www.facebook.com/people/Nancy-Gershman/667602791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-7527013255859291042013-03-20T19:32:31.116-04:002013-03-20T19:32:31.116-04:00I can so identify ... I lost my mom 3 months ago a...I can so identify ... I lost my mom 3 months ago after 9 years battling Alzheimer's. I, too, prefer alone time or, at the most, 1-on-1's - dinner with a friend who I feel will understand. Socializing, or even being around groups, does not appeal to me at all. Until you've been there, you have no idea how hard it is to accept that everyone else has moved on and you're still consumed with your loss and the associated grief. I'm starting a series of grief classes in April and also have a "Daughters Mourning Mothers" workshop scheduled for later in the month... if nothing else, it is helpful to know that all of these crazy emotions are "normal"...Annnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-19503793482932122462013-03-20T15:28:52.480-04:002013-03-20T15:28:52.480-04:00Dear reader, I second that. So very sorry for your...Dear reader, I second that. So very sorry for your loss. I agree that "Your first obligation in grief is to take care of yourself." Coping with grief is difficult but try to work through your grief in positive ways if you can. Some things that helped me were lighting a candle or creating a virtual memorial. There are websites like http://www.healgrief.org/light-candle that offer a virtual community for support. Hope you feel better soon. :)Stay Positivenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163377615656061205.post-86742645322184646112013-03-20T10:31:43.457-04:002013-03-20T10:31:43.457-04:00Dear reader, I'm also very sorry to hear about...Dear reader, I'm also very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I completely understand how you just want to be alone for a while. I remember feeling the exact same way. Taking care of yourself and allowing yourself to "feel the grief" is the most important thing for you to do right now. Don't feel guilty about that. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.Nancy's Pointhttp://twitter.com/NancysPointnoreply@blogger.com