Sunday, August 20, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, August 13 - August 19, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Nurses share a side to their profession that most people don't see, http://j.mp/2vP3qeC « Business Insider

12 tips for giving patients bad news, http://j.mp/2vOUnKG « Kevin MD

End-of-life advice: More than 500,000 chat on Medicare’s dime, http://j.mp/2vCf8Jd « USA Today

Understanding and Managing Grief, August 13 - August 19, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The Greatest Fears of Grief, http://j.mp/2vMDdNF « GriefMinisterdotcom

When the 'U' Word Is Missing, Grievers Suffer, http://j.mp/2w5TwHR « Stunned By Grief

Do You Really Never Get Over Losing A Child? http://j.mp/2vGUS9y « Grieve Well

Coping with Pet Loss, August 13 - August 19, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Pet Hospice: Why You Should Consider It, http://j.mp/2vPpN3s  « Pet MD

Children and Pet Loss: Following Their Lead, http://j.mp/2vV8gtj « Grief Healing

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Monday, August 14, 2017

Children and Pet Loss: Following Their Lead

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The moment I decided to follow instead of lead, I discovered the joys of becoming a part of a small child's world.  ~ Janet Gonzalez-Mena

A reader writes: I wrote to you earlier about the death of our dog -- our wonderful and loving companion of 15 years -- as we needed some poetry and appropriate messages to read at the Memorial Service we were planning when we buried her remains in our yard. You were kind enough to refer us to your Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers page, and I thank you so much for your words of comfort. I also took the time to read the articles you suggested, which soothed my sad and heavy heart.

I wrote to you again when I needed to tell my 5-year-old granddaughter what happened to Samantha. She knew our dog was old and tired, but she wasn't around when Samantha was euthanized.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Grief Healing Notified of HONcode Certification!

I am pleased to report that both the Grief Healing Blog and the Grief Healing Discussion Groups Web sites continue to be fully compliant with Health on the Net Foundation’s HONcode. We've recently been notified that both sites are HONcode-certified, which entitles us to display the HONcode seal on the sites’ home pages for the following year.

Health On the Net (HON) was founded to encourage the dissemination of quality health information for patients and professionals, and to facilitate access to the latest and most relevant medical data through the use of the Internet. The Health On the Net (HON) Foundation is a non-governmental organization, internationally known for its pioneering work in the field of health information ethics, notably for the establishment of its code of ethical conduct, the HONcode—the oldest and most trusted code for medical and health-related information available on the Internet.

Caregiving and Hospice, August 6 - August 12, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Thinking About Dying, Even When The Doctor Has No Time For It, http://j.mp/2vy0hQi « WBUR CommonHealth

How the show 13 Reasons Why can help you in the exam room, http://j.mp/2vMmv3h « Kevin MD

Chemo side effects can destroy quality of life, http://j.mp/2vMmKM1 « Daily Mail Online

Understanding and Managing Grief, August 6 - August 12, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

A letter to … the kind stranger who shared her grief with me, http://j.mp/2vPqbSb «The Guardian

How to talk about grief in the workplace, according to a therapist, http://j.mp/2vLW3a3 « Ladders

Why Grief Is A Series of Contractions and Expansions, http://j.mp/2usodTo  « Tricycle

Coping with Pet Loss, August 6 - August 12, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

The joy, the grief, the pain: What I now understand about losing a pet, http://j.mp/2vMtbP7 « Petoskey News

How a Pet Hospice Vet Can Help Your Senior Dog, http://bit.ly/2otGHR9 « Dogster

Death of a household pet signals the end of an era, http://j.mp/2vuzjuY « Stuff

Monday, August 7, 2017

Voices of Experience: Why Self-Pity May Be Unjustified--And Unhelpful

Pure misery is a luxury one never learns to enjoy. ~ Rita Dove

Mark Henricks is a freelance journalist and musician and father of three children, including Brady Nathaniel Henricks, who died October 2, 2016 of suicide at age 16. Since losing his youngest child and only son, Mark has studied the grief research literature, searching for evidence-based bereavement coping strategies. In his effort to share with others what he has learned, he writes about these and related topics on his blog Grieve Well. The following post originally appeared there and is reprinted here with his permission.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 30 - August 5, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Fearing Hospice, http://j.mp/2uSxvt1 « Hospice Times

Medical Ethics: In The Charlie Gard Case, Listen To The Nurses, http://j.mp/2uQCJFT « CommonHealth

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Understanding and Managing Grief, July 30 - August 5, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

'Zero Suicide': A Bold Mental-Health Initiative,  http://j.mp/2v5Yphg « The Atlantic

In Grief: When A Loved One Shares Thoughts of Suicide, http://j.mp/2vaZuHj « Grief Healing

What To Do If You Don't Know What To Do After Loss, http://j.mp/2uOovVL « The Grief Toolbox

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Monday, July 31, 2017

In Grief: When A Loved One Shares Thoughts of Suicide

When a person says that he or she is thinking about suicide, you must always take the comments seriously. Assuming that the person is only seeking attention is a very serious, and potentially disastrous, error.  ~ Kevin Caruso

A reader writes: I just had a conversation with my father who is constantly talking suicide. He even gave me a date of his death - my mother's birthday. It is his revenge to everyone - mostly to mom who left because of his drinking and adultery. What am I supposed to tell him? My heart breaks, especially because I am here in this country, and my father is far away overseas. So I would not be able to even attend his funeral, as horrible as it sounds. Can you advise me on how I can cope?

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 23 - July 29, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

8 Things to Do When You First Learn Your Loved One Has Alzheimer's, http://j.mp/2uKQd5 « Caring.com

For anyone who is caring for or has ever cared for anyone. Thanks to Gillette for this exquisite video on caregiving, http://j.mp/2uJTRgi « YouTube

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Understanding and Managing Grief, July 23 - July 29, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Struggling with Grief? You Need Not Struggle Alone, http://j.mp/2uJT0wl « Self Healing Expressions

Reject the 'J' Word that Devastates Grievers, http://j.mp/2v6dr9c « Stunned By Grief

Grief Identity Crisis: Who are we now? http://j.mp/2v4DZYp « The Grief Toolbox

Monday, July 24, 2017

Teen Grief Following a Fatal Accident

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Guilt is to the spirit what pain is to the body.  ~ Elder David A. Bednar

A reader writes: My niece, nephew and my nephew’s girlfriend were in a car accident four weeks ago, and my nephew was the driver. Another car cut him off and he hit a concrete divider. His car flipped over a couple of times and his girlfriend was killed instantly. My nephew is not handling this well at all. How can I help him deal with his grief, or perhaps you can help with contacts with other individuals who have been through the same or similar loss. My nephew is 17 and his girlfriend was 17 also. Any help, information or contacts you can provide would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Sunday, July 23, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 16 - July 22, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Health reform everybody could love, http://j.mp/2vsz15b « Kevin MD

Opt-out Organ Donation Saves Lives, http://j.mp/2uHuWML « Seven Ponds

Cancer Doesn't Choose Who Survives Based On How Hard Someone Fights, http://j.mp/2vrYmw0  « HuffPost

Understanding and Managing Grief, July 16 - July 22, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Online Grief Course will be relaunched Fall 2017 Due to Popular Demand, http://j.mp/2vtpxXx « Self-Healing Expressions

Help! My Sister Keeps Posting Photos of Our Dead Father (and Tagging Me) on Social Media, http://j.mp/2vssqaG « Modern Loss

Breaking and Mending 11 Years Later... http://j.mp/2vsfAt8 « Christina Rasmussen

Coping with Pet Loss, July 16 - July 22, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How a Pet Hospice Vet Can Help Your Senior Dog, http://bit.ly/2otGHR9 « Dogster

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Monday, July 17, 2017

In Grief: Can I Do This By Myself?

If I think of the real work of grief as doing whatever I can to keep my heart open, to feel and to face every stitch of both pain and love, without somehow abandoning myself in the process, well – that’s “work” I can get behind. That’s work I understand.  ~ Megan Devine

A reader writes: I have only talked to you a couple of times and I am hoping that you can help me out. I am feeling so lost and empty right now that I just want to get in bed and pull the covers over my head, hide and cry. I know that you will say that is normal but I am 32 years old and have never had to deal with the loss of someone. For my first to be my mom, when we used to talk all the time and spend a lot of time together, and for her to leave me—I am so hurt and lost and misplaced. I am hurting so bad. I hate reading books. I get so side-tracked that it does not stick, and the thought of going to a counselor? No thanks. The last one I went to made me feel like I was wasting his time and offered no advice. I used to be so full of life and always had a smile on my face and now nothing.

Sunday, July 16, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 9 - July 15, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

'Are you saying I'm dying?' Training doctors to speak frankly about death, http://j.mp/2uoDCat « STAT

Life After the Diagnosis: A Podcast with Steve Pantilat, http://j.mp/2vkMr2f « GeriPal

Medicare4All won't fix the problem, http://j.mp/2uk3Af0 « Kevin MD

Understanding and Managing Grief, July 9 - July 15, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Loneliness: 5 “Don’ts” If You’re Feeling Lonely After Loss,  http://j.mp/2unzHuG « The Grief Toolbox

Terrific interview: Children and Grief, http://j.mp/2unjSDV « Jewel 92 FM

Review: "Bearing the Unbearable" by Joanne Cacciatore, Ph.D., http://j.mp/2vl9cTC « Seven Ponds Blog

Monday, July 10, 2017

Voices of Experience: The Wisdom of a 5-Year Old Picking Carrots

Credit: Dylan Parker
By Mary Beth Beck-Henderson

You can bury a lot of troubles digging in the dirt. ~ Anonymous

Mary Beth and her husband John had been married for nearly 24 years before he succumbed to complications of a superior mesenteric artery (SMA) aneurysm on November 22, 2016. They have a son who is now 20 years old and in college. Mary Beth has worked with families as a social worker and family educator for over 26 years. Acknowledging that she is "always looking for ways to make meaning out of all of this," she uses writing as a tool for healing grief, and hopes that the journal she is keeping may become a book one day. The following essay is reprinted here with her permission.

Sunday, July 9, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, July 2 - July 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Cruising, sharing and learning as a hospice volunteer, http://j.mp/2uPhMcW « Coastal View

You can’t always get what you want…  http://j.mp/2uLkpwp « The Fairytale and the Abyss

Palliative Care Patient Education Handouts, http://j.mp/1GT7ygX « Get Palliative Care

Understanding and Managing Grief, July 2 - July 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

When Sobriety Meets Grief (and grief meets sobriety), http://j.mp/2uQ6o0y « What's Your Grief?

When your dearly departed loved one was a bit of a devil, http://j.mp/2uPzPzW « The Fresno Bee

Waters of the New Normal: Developing Resilience After Son's Suicide, http://j.mp/2tR4i3l « Michelle Jarvie

Coping with Pet Loss, July 2 - July 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

What to Do When Your Dog is Lost, http://j.mp/2uLfwnp « TruDog®

Grief Healing: Pet Loss: When Guilt Goes Unresolved, http://j.mp/2uC5oNm « Grief Healing

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Monday, July 3, 2017

Pet Loss: When Guilt Goes Unresolved

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Dealing with guilt is often thought of as the “dark side” of grieving. In fact, if you were to write a play about grief, guilt would be your villain.  ~ Dana Durrance

A reader writes: First I want to say that my 10-year-old dog is the love of my life sent to me by God to care for. He is epileptic and I devote my life and time to helping him in every way. I dread the day he has to leave me. My prior dog I also loved, perhaps not as closely, but she lived to be almost 17 and I loved her. My problem is that many years ago I gave away a little dog to someone, even knowing in my heart it was not the best home, and I am pretty sure she got run over as they lived on a busy road. It is a long story, but what was I thinking?

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, June 25 - July 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Hospice Care: When is it Time? http://bit.ly/2kdbwu8 « EGAN Home Health and Hospice

Hospice Care about Re-Focusing Priorities, Not Giving Up - Alzheimer's, http://j.mp/2uikS9g « Health Central

From above: Geriatric social workers mean the world to children of aging parents, http://j.mp/2u8CG6P « Chicago Tribune

Understanding and Managing Grief, June 25 - July 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Why Grief Is A Series of Contractions and Expansions, http://j.mp/2usodTo « Tricycle

What one good doctor taught this mother about grief, http://j.mp/2tqYldm « Kevin MD

Delayed Grief: When Grief Gets Worse, http://j.mp/2tqhQm7 « The Grief Toolbox

Coping with Pet Loss, June 25 - July 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Companies now offering pet bereavement days for loss of 4-legged friends, http://j.mp/2usxMS5 « ABC 7 News Chicago

'I am an angel of death,' http://j.mp/2t5FVOZ « DVM 360

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Monday, June 26, 2017

In Grief: Family Disagreements Regarding Funerals

I think the funeral, done right, is vital to the healing of broken hearts.  ~ Doug Manning

A reader writes: I recently located your website and wanted to inquire about your experiences. I am sure in your profession you have seen a variety of ways that people deal with grief differently. How often have you come across a family member who disagrees with how the other is handling their grief? Specifically, when there are disagreements whether someone should view a body or attend a funeral?

Sunday, June 25, 2017

Understanding and Managing Grief, June 18 - June 24, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

 Lovely! Nancy Sharp on helping children remember their deceased father: What does it mean to love when you can't remember? http://j.mp/2tYAf6y « Option B

Megan Devine on grief work and how we can carry what can't be fixed, http://j.mp/2tYk898 « Raven Radio

Therapy dogs in funeral homes help mourners process, http://j.mp/2sZci1V «TODAY

Monday, June 19, 2017

In Grief: Helping Another While Coping With My Own Loss

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A reader writes: I really need some help. I am at a loss with things right now. Here is my issue. My partner’s dad is dying. He was hospitalized two weeks ago and put on hospice by the advice of his doctor. He has Alzheimer’s; his life is over and he is hanging on by a string. I am still mourning the death of my mother four months ago, and now here I am with my partner and his family as they are going through this themselves.

Sunday, June 18, 2017

Understanding and Managing Grief, June 11 - June 17, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Heidi Horsley on Sibling Loss: "Finding Hope and Transforming My Life,” http://j.mp/2tz25Gu « OptionB

A Funeral Sermon for My Friend Who Committed Suicide, http://j.mp/2sy4nIG « CCC Discover

Coping with Grief on Father’s Day: Selected Resources, http://j.mp/1tlWtPh « Grief Healing

Coping with Pet Loss, June 11 - June 17, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Actor Tom Hardy's Emotional Tribute to Dog, http://j.mp/2tevHsv « TruDog®

When a Pet Dies, Helping Children Through the ‘Worst Day of Their Lives,’ http://j.mp/2tb86bY « The New York Times

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Monday, June 12, 2017

In Grief: Death of a Possibility

Nothing is more sad than the death of an illusion.  ~ Arthur Koestler

A reader writes: My dad has been deceased for two years, and I am just coming to grips with the fact that he is really gone. It seems like only yesterday I got the phone call that changed my life forever.

My dad and I were never really close. His traumatic childhood had left him in a 24/7 dream world, and my parents divorced when I was about 4 years of age. My dad was a very sick man with schizophrenia and alcoholism. My mom left him when he became physically abusive, and throughout my childhood I met with him maybe five times. I have since forgiven him for what he did in the past to my mom and me, as he was sick and could not control his actions or words.

Sunday, June 11, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, June 4 - June 10, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

‘How long have I got?’: Why many cancer patients don’t have answers, http://j.mp/2t5PNoM « USA Today

If I Can't Speak For Myself...  http://bit.ly/2rQOcnb  Barbara Karnes RN

When a Loved Chooses to Stop Treatment, http://bit.ly/2s9PiwX « Seven Ponds Blog

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Understanding and Managing Grief, June 4 - June 10, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

It's hard to articulate grief after a suicide – but we still need support, http://bit.ly/2s4W9rh  « The Guardian

Powerful: The Gifts We Give, The Gifts We Are, http://bit.ly/2s4ZmqB « On Being

Finding the Strength You Need, http://bit.ly/2r18Obr « Open to Hope

Coping with Pet Loss, June 4 - June 10, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Euthanasia Outside of the Veterinary Hospital, http://bit.ly/2qXF5iG « Spot Speaks 

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Monday, June 5, 2017

Voices of Experience: Tips to Make Your Way through Grief

You are never really prepared for grief and you can't truly understand it unless you've been there. ~ Anonymous

Kay Oxford is a retired office manager and bookkeeper who lives in the mountains of the northwestern United States with her dog Arlie and Kitty the cat. Since the sudden and unexpected loss of her beloved husband George, who died of a heart attack in 2005, Kay has been active in online grief forums for more than a decade. She also facilitates the in-person grief support group she started recently in her community. Here she shares some of the suggestions she has found to be useful in navigating her own grief journey:

Sunday, June 4, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 28 - June 3, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

I Will Help You: Palliative Care Support Before Hospice, http://bit.ly/2qyUUwU « Elaine Mansfield

New resources from Alzheimer's Association for primary care providers, http://bit.ly/2sbe3p7 « ehospice USA

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Understanding and Managing Grief, May 28 - June 3, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grief Healing: Finding a Place of Hope - Interview, http://bit.ly/2rKV4p4 « Open To Hope

The Surprising Truth About Ritual and Grief, http://bit.ly/2rv88Ov « What's Your Grief?

Traumatic Loss: Needing To View The Body, http://bit.ly/2rfaGjq « Grief Healing

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Monday, May 29, 2017

Traumatic Loss: Needing To View The Body

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People who suddenly lose a spouse or a child to murder, suicide or an accident often benefit from being allowed to see the dead person’s body, even if it’s bruised or starting to decompose, a new investigation finds.  ~ Science News

A reader writes: I have enrolled in your online grief course and it is a wonderful help. I have spent hours reading over your articles and books, and I am just about to order another book for my son on the death of a sibling.

I don’t know if you remember me, but you helped me in a massive way last June. You gave me instant advice regarding my son who had gone missing in the sea following a climbing accident.

Sunday, May 28, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 21 - May 27, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Don't wait: Now's the time to discuss end-of-life care https://usat.ly/2r71Lyq « USA Today

Hospice care doesn't have to start at the end of life, http://bit.ly/2qpJNq1 « WRAL.com

What It Takes To Be A Hospice Nurse, http://bit.ly/2qhHLfm « Barbara Karnes, RN

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 21 - May 27, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Never Long Enough - A new book of comfort and hope amidst grief and loss, http://bit.ly/2rZjdFr « Read The Spirit

The Long Game After Loss, http://bit.ly/2rGMh7h « Christina Rasmussen

When We Blame Ourselves, http://bit.ly/2s3v7Nt « The Grief Toolbox

Monday, May 22, 2017

In Grief: Needing to Tell The Story

A reader writes: I feel like I am losing it. Both my mother and my sister were killed in an auto accident two months ago. I find myself talking about it over and over again, to anyone who will listen. But no matter how many times I tell the story, I can’t seem to wrap my mind around it. I am trying to believe that it really did happen, because at this moment in time, I really cannot believe it myself.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 14 - May 20, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

We're Bad at Death. Can We Talk? http://nyti.ms/2rEVqJV « The New York Times

Cancer Patients Might Be More Optimistic About Prognosis Than Their Doctors, http://bit.ly/2qGtp5h « Seven Ponds

Rebecca Sudore on Advance Care Planning: The Prepare Trial, http://bit.ly/2rzfDRg « GeriPal

Understanding and Managing Grief, May 14 - May 20, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Why we Need to Stop Saying, "I'm Sorry For Your Loss," http://bit.ly/2r4Bh3M « Elephant Journal

After A Loss, Learning to Be Happy Again, http://nyti.ms/2q2E1dB « The New York Times

Change Your Mind, Change the World, http://bit.ly/2pUt6H5 « Soaring Spirits International

Monday, May 15, 2017

Voices of Experience: You Know You’re Getting Better When…

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.  ~ Confucius

Laurie Burrows Grad is a food writer, television chef, and food journalist who transitioned to writing about grief when her husband Peter suddenly died on August 1, 2015. She has written over 65 blogs about being a widow on Huffington Post. The post below originally appeared on Thrive Global, the new site for Arianna Huffington, and is reprinted here with Laurie's permission. She is also the Editor-in-Chief for www.epicurus.com, one of the top food sites, and writes monthly blogs about cookware and cookbooks. In her personal life, Laurie is a philanthropist, who with her late husband Peter raised over $30 million for the Alzheimer’s Association in honor of her father, the late playwright Abe Burrows.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, May 7 - May 13, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Episode 1: No step entry, http://bit.ly/2pCT8JM « Nest for Life

After bowel cancer, I understand why people are tempted to reject treatment, http://ab.co/2pCXhhB « Science News

Facing Your Own Death: Can You Really Prepare Now? http://bit.ly/2pnqI6n « Seven Ponds Blog

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Understanding and Managing Grief, May 7 - May 13, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Remembering My Mom on Mother's Day, http://j.mp/JTwqmc « Grief Healing

A Hidden Grief on Mother's Day, http://bit.ly/2qd5Y5y « ACS Technologies Ministry Impact

Sharing Stories About Loss and Grief, http://bit.ly/2pJ7BVa « Canadian Virtual Hospice

Monday, May 8, 2017

In Grief: Daughters Mourning Mothers

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When a mother dies, a daughter’s mourning never completely ends. ~ Hope Edelman

A reader writes: Today I visited your site for the first time and I have decided to share something I wrote with you. This fall I lost my mother less than a week before my son's wedding. I have been grieving for both my empty nest (3 adult children have moved on with their lives) along with the loss of my mother. Each time I feel lonely or sad because my kids have grown and left the nest, I feel deep pain for having caused my mother the same grief. Relationships with parents are complicated; expectations, irritations, personality quirks, being a 47 year old daughter, etc. Along with the emotional connectedness we had with one another, my grief includes loss for my mother as a friend.

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, April 30 - May 6, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Honoring Hospice Nurses: National Nurses Week, May 6 – May 12, http://bit.ly/mFIU0a « Grief Healing

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Understanding and Managing Grief, April 30 - May 6, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Sudden Loss: 5 Ways it Differs from Expected Loss, http://bit.ly/2pRHooo « The Grief Toolbox

Digitally Delivered Mental Health – The Revolution Is Here! http://bit.ly/2qMuoQa « Health Journeys

The Bigger Lesson From Facebook’s New Bereavement Leave Policy, http://bit.ly/2pKavtP « Fast Company

Coping with Pet Loss, April 30 - May 6, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Pet hospice helps ease difficult days for animals and their humans, http://bit.ly/2pc9nOF « WGN-TV

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Monday, May 1, 2017

In Grief: Causing Accidental Death or Injury (CADI) to Another

Life is an adventure in forgiveness, the writer Norman Cousins once said, but few things come so hard as forgiving oneself.  ~ Todd Leopold

A reader writes: Three weeks ago I hit a pedestrian. Two days later he died. I am up and down, feeling guilt. Sometimes I try to act OK. My husband is very worried about me. I am going to a class on anxiety. It helps me understand what I am experiencing. But are there any online resources that deal with someone dying who is NOT a loved one, but rather actually a complete stranger and the ongoing guilt I feel about this?

Sunday, April 30, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, April 23 - April 29, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Widespread Hype Gives False Hope To Many Cancer Patients, http://bit.ly/2oT4N7R « Kaiser Health News

7 Ways to Manage Caregiver Stress when Their Issues Are Also Your Own, http://bit.ly/2oIUdjq « Health Journeys

Spinning Out of Control: when a family member is terminally ill, http://bit.ly/2q8HyGP « SevenPondsBlog

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Understanding and Managing Grief, April 23 - April 29, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Making Sense of Senseless Tragedy, http://bit.ly/2oTzdH7 « Grieve Well

Video game to help people cope with grief, http://bit.ly/2p1pPn8 « eHospice

Guilt After a Suicide by Brandy Lidbeck, http://bit.ly/2qcCTrm « The Gift of Second

Monday, April 24, 2017

Mother Loss: When Grief Is Mixed with Menopause

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"Do not become alarmed when you experience yourself in totally new ways," sighs Grandmother Growth tenderly. "You are changing, getting ready to be initiated into the third stage of your life. Are you ready for the ride of your life?"  ~ Susun Weed

A reader writes: I’d like to know if any other women in their early 50's (like I am) might lose their mother (or dearest, closest relative) during the process of menopause. I looked online for some more information regarding this topic, and didn't find much. If there is "nothing new under the sun", then I know I am not alone, and someone else can relate.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Understanding and Managing Grief, April 16 - April 22, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Who’s in Charge Here? Coping with loss of control, http://bit.ly/2ork7rS « What's Your Grief?

How to Offer Support to a Grieving Colleague, http://bit.ly/2pji1yu « Harvard Business Review

Guided Imagery 101 – Some Basics for Everyone, http://bit.ly/2pGDXAq « Health Journeys

Monday, April 17, 2017

In Grief: Remembering Is An Active Process

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If we are loved and remembered, then we live on forever in the hearts of those who love us.  ~ Ted Menten

A reader writes: Eleven months ago, my son had a massive seizure in his sleep and went on to Heaven as a result. His birthday was to be the next day, the saddest day of my entire life. He was 6 feet tall, blonde hair, blue eyes and the most beautiful smile anyone ever wanted to see. He had the kindest heart and gentle way about him. I really did not realize how many lives he had touched while he was with us. When God came to take him home he got a very special angel. He was 21 and the kind of young man anyone would have been proud to have had for a son. I must say it was a privilege to say I was his mother. The day he died a part of me died too. I miss him so much it is physically painful even to this day. I have not found a way to live this new life I have been given.

Sunday, April 16, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, April 9 - April 15, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Are you listening, docs? Politicians must consult front-line physicians for health reform, http://bit.ly/2p2WaLi « Kevin MD

Single payer: Yes! Medicare for all: No! http://bit.ly/2omEveq « Kevin MD

Why politics and patients don’t mix, http://bit.ly/2ooh6eB « Kevin MD

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Understanding and Managing Grief, April 9 - April 15, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Megan Devine: Some things in life can't be fixed, http://bit.ly/2ohD9QH « The Start Up Sessions

Sheryl Sandberg: Option B and Life After Grief, http://ti.me/2nN0f6c « TIME

My Marathon Towards Healing, http://bit.ly/2otgiVB « Maria Shriver

Coping with Pet Loss, April 9 - April 15, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

What Not to Say When Someone Loses a Pet, http://bit.ly/2oqUASD « VetSTREET

Grief in the Wake of a Dog’s Wrongful Death, http://bit.ly/2nZSBBF « Grief Healing

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Monday, April 10, 2017

Pet Loss: Grief in the Wake of a Dog’s Wrongful Death

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When confronted with a legal problem regarding negligent or intentional harm to a companion animal, there is no substitute for face-to-face, fact-specific advice obtained from one’s own attorney. Accordingly, Institute for Animal Rights Law urges anyone with a potential or actual problem of this kind to consult a lawyer. ~ Professor Henry Mark Holzer

A reader writes: Hello. I'm writing to you because my daughter's dog Sadie was savagely attacked and torn up by 2 big dogs this past Sunday night. These local news reports give the details of this terrible tragedy:

Sunday, April 9, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, April 2 - April 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

An Innovative Concept: College Students and Seniors Living Under One Roof, http://bit.ly/2ouHKUb « Maria Shriver

5 Invitations: What Death Can Teach About Living, http://bit.ly/2nLMzW1 « Spirituality and Health

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Understanding and Managing Grief, April 2 - April 8, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

There Is Nothing You Can Say to Heal Someone Else's Grief, http://bit.ly/2jjQ7M1 « The Mighty

5 Things NOT to Say to Someone Who is Grieving, http://bit.ly/2o5gR7P « Grief In Common

Delayed Grief: When We Don't Take Time to Mourn, http://bit.ly/2nvSoFq Grief Healing

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Coping with Pet Loss, April 2 - April 8, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Don't Shame Me For Grieving My Dog's Death, http://huff.to/2oIupra « The Huffington Post

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Monday, April 3, 2017

Delayed Grief: When We Don't Take Time to Mourn

You can close your eyes to the things you don’t want to see, but you can’t close your heart to the things you don’t want to feel. ~ Johnny Depp

A reader writes: I don't know what's happening. It has been more than three years since my friend Jane died. We shared a home for over ten years. Both of our parents had died and our siblings were gone also. We were the only family that either of us had. After she died I went right back to work. Really I went back to overwork. Last December I went to Kenya for four months; when I came back I was not working. I started having dreams about Jane. She would go somewhere and I couldn't find her. I would wake up in a panic.

Sunday, April 2, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, March 26- April 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How to prepare for a good death, http://bit.ly/2nI7edy « Ideas.TED.com

College students partner with hospice to learn caregiving, http://bit.ly/2op1QMs « The State Press

The Nurse Who Admits Patients to Hospice Care, http://nym.ag/2np1mVw « NY Magazine

Understanding and Managing Grief, March 26- April 1, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

6 Vital Questions in Bereavement Assessment and Support, http://bit.ly/2oAM2W4 «
Grief Perspectives

Addiction: The Terminal Illness No One Talks About, http://bit.ly/2nymond « Seven Ponds Blog

Updated: Tips for Coping with Sleeplessness in Grief, http://bit.ly/hkoXnZ « Grief Healing

Monday, March 27, 2017

In Grief: Coping with Childlessness

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Oh, my friend, it's not what they take away from you that counts. It's what you do with what you have left.  ~ Hubert Humphrey

A reader writes: I just wanted to say Thank You for your site -- it's been a real help to me today, as I try and start to get my head around our childlessness. It's a strange grief as it's a loss that only I see -- to the rest of the world it's life as usual! I found your pieces on the process of grief really useful -- and the quotes and pieces of inspiration. I really needed some practical tips on coping with the mood swings - I found all the information on the grief work really helpful, and I realize that I need to leave more time and be kinder on myself. Over the past few weeks I've suddenly had a real desire to get a dog -- a pet I've never had before. Your pieces on companion animals have made me realize that this might not be such a daft idea after all.

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, March 19 - March 25, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How hospice helped my mother find peace, http://bit.ly/2nJQKnL « Kevin MD

Lawyers have no business in the field of advance care planning, http://bit.ly/2mwaP0J « Kevin MD

Palliative Care: Pro-Life, Pro-Choice, Pro-Dignity, and Pro-Family, http://huff.to/2mX5rDv « The Huffington Post

Understanding and Managing Grief, March 19 - March 25, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

What Losing Your Mother Feels Like, http://j.mp/1xOAP1Q « The Huffington Post

Stress in Grief, http://bit.ly/2mZwD0V « What's Your Grief?

Dating After Loss of a Spouse, http://bit.ly/2mSLny9 « Grief in Common

Coping with Pet Loss, March 19 - March 25, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Things I Wish I Had Known When My Dog Died, http://nyti.ms/2nnlc5T « The New York Times

It can be harder to lose a dog than a relative or friend -- here's why, http://read.bi/2o01MTc « Business Insider

Respond to Friends' Pet Loss with Sympathetic Calls, Letters, http://bit.ly/2mZF1Nm « A Good Goodbye

Monday, March 20, 2017

Explaining Suicide to A Child

If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.  ~ Albert Einstein

A reader writes: My husband committed suicide six weeks ago. He left behind our nine-year-old son and myself. I know exactly why he killed himself. He had suffered years of physical pain, had emotional problems, depression, manic depression and other problems, some of which were attributed to the fact he had no male role model in his youth. His biological father left when he was five. His stepfather showed him no love or support whatsoever and his mother suffered from depression. He had not worked in many years and felt useless. He felt that his manhood was gone and thought the only way out was to overdose. He said in his suicide note that his race was done. He had become very difficult to live with.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, March 12 - March 18, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Seven facts you might not know about hospice, http://bit.ly/2n0eiU9 « Kitsap Sun

Have Your Wishes For Care Known Before A Health Crisis Strikes, http://n.pr/2mqI4yB « NPR

Palliative Care: Pro-Life, Pro-Choice, Pro-Dignity, and Pro-Family,  http://huff.to/2mX5rDv « The Huffington Post

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Understanding and Managing Grief, March 12 - March 18, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Why You Want A Physicist to Speak at Your Funeral, http://bit.ly/2nOGQ0x « A Good Goodbye

Stay in...and Cry, http://bit.ly/2njn5Bn « Christina Rasmussen

Grief In The Second Year: Finding Your Way, http://buff.ly/2n6Bm3O « Grief Healing

Coping with Pet Loss, March 12 - March 18, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Caring for an Aging or Dying Pet – What You Need to Know (and Some Help with Your Grief), http://bit.ly/2na6WhD « Wake Up World

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Monday, March 13, 2017

Grief Healing: On Becoming a Grief Counselor

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We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.  ~ Author Unknown

A reader writes: I came across your website, but I believe I have heard your name before. I'm writing for two reasons; first, out of admiration for your work in pet loss and grief, and secondly, to see if you could possibly help me. Historically, I've had an interest in depression and anxiety, but my recent experiences with the elderly have guided me towards grief and loss. Pet grief and loss has always been important to me. As I approach graduate school and the chance to do a thesis and numerous other projects/papers, this topic seems to be dominating my preferences. With all of this in mind, I was wondering if you have any advice for this stage of my career--both academically and professionally.

Sunday, March 12, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, March 5 - March 11, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

PBS Documentary Brings Chronic Pain Out of Shadows, http://bit.ly/2nnvujU « Pain News Network

When a Patient Asks You to Pray…5 Things to Consider, http://bit.ly/2nmPhzS « Hospice Times

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Understanding and Managing Grief, March 5 - March 11, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Patton Oswalt Explains How Pop Culture Gets Grieving All Wrong, http://n.pr/2mvAXpx « NPR

Grieving college students: Find an AMF chapter on your college campus, http://bit.ly/2mKut8n « Actively Moving Forward

10 Things Only A Griever Understands, http://bit.ly/2n83i8u « The Grief Toolbox

Monday, March 6, 2017

Using Music To Help With Grief

When you're happy, you enjoy the music. But, when you're sad, you understand the lyrics.  ~ Frank Ocean

People have known for centuries that music touches the human soul. We know intuitively that music affects us in profound and healing ways, both emotionally and physically, and present-day research demonstrates this to be true. In health care settings such as hospitals, clinics and hospices, music therapy is found to be remarkably effective in helping to calm patients, reduce stress, ease muscle tension, promote movement and manage pain.

Sunday, March 5, 2017

Caregiving and Hospice, February 26 - March 4, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

How Can Palliative Care Be Implemented in the ICU? http://bit.ly/2lqbFMd « Seven Ponds Blog

The Alzheimer's Action Plan, http://bit.ly/2mQFvGM « Alzheimer's Reading Room

Dementia and Grief, http://bit.ly/2miVHCU « eHospice

Understanding and Managing Grief, February 26 - March 4, 2017

Best selections from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

I'm Not Okay, http://bit.ly/2lql0n9 « Soaring Spirits International

Dementia and Grief, http://bit.ly/2miVHCU « eHospice

In Grief: Carrying The Load, http://bit.ly/2lHomON « Christina Rasmussen

Coping with Pet Loss, February 26 - March 4, 2017

Best selection from Grief Healing's Twitter stream this week:

Grief is the Price We Pay For Love: Helping Heal the Grief of Pet Loss, http://bit.ly/2lKryZM « Liv On

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Monday, February 27, 2017

In Grief: Worried About My Daughter

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Oh, please, let’s talk about the elephant in the room. For if we talk about her death, perhaps we can talk about her life. ~ Terry Kettering

A reader writes: My daughter is 16. Her brother was 17 when he was killed three months ago. As we live where there is no other family she had to be the second one to identify his body. She won't talk. It's like he never existed. I have tried getting her to counseling but she isn't interested. The counselor told me to just be here for her when she needs me and that she is taking her cues from me. But I am really worried that if she bottles this up it will compound later on. I'm not so sure I am right. Can you shed some light please?
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