A reader writes: I am in therapy, and one of the things that I discovered in my sessions is that as much as I miss my cat on a daily basis, what hurts me the most and continues to haunt me is her untimely and totally unexpected death. She was just TOO young and I feel it was so unfair that she was cheated out of her life. Even today, I continue to worry about her and wonder if she is okay. Upon my therapist's suggestion, I have tried to repeat to myself that wherever she is (?) that she is okay, but I find that easier to believe some days than other days. I just so want to believe/KNOW that she is alright. And although I want to do some kind of memorial, I am not ready. Just writing this has brought new tears and I know that looking at her pictures still has the same effect.
I’ve read some of your posts and I appreciate your input about pet loss and knowing that it is not abnormal to have such a strong reaction to a pet's death. There is no one else who understands why the death of my cat impacted and devastated me so much more than the death of my parents, and sometimes I wonder that myself. But it is what it is and I am grateful that there is one place where others understand.
My response: My dear, I am gratified to learn that you’ve found my writing about pet loss helpful.
That said, I wonder if you've ever considered doing some reading about the subject of animals and the afterlife as a way of addressing your concerns for your kitty's welfare? See Pet Loss: Do Pets Go To Heaven? for a list of recommended books on this topic.
You might also think about consulting an animal communicator ~ that is, one who specializes in connecting with and communicating telepathically with animals. If you're interested in pursuing that, you might find some of the resources I’ve listed below to be helpful. (Note that my listing of individual animal communicators does not imply an official endorsement on my part; some are people whose names have been given to me by readers who have used their services and were satisfied enough to recommend them to me.) If others reading this have favorites that you can also recommend, I invite you to share them with us in our Comments section below:
Pamela Talbot Adams
Annette Betcher ~ Specializing in Horses
Dawn Brunke ~ Animal Voices
Liz Morrison ~ Your Pet Wants to Talk
Rita Reynolds ~ Blessing the Bridge
Teresa Wagner ~ Animals in Our Hearts
Jason Wickens ~ Talking To Animals
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Related Articles and Resources:
- Animal Communicators Directory
- Communicating With Your Animal After Death - CD by Teresa Wagner
- 9 Things Your Deceased Pet Wants You To Know
- Religion and Spirituality in Grief
- Pet Loss: Do Pets Go To Heaven?
- Is Pet Loss Comparable To Loss Of A Loved One?
- The Afterlife of Dogs, Cats, Horses and Other Furry Friends - YouTube
- Assisi International Animal Institute
- Blessing the Bridge
- Animals and the Afterlife
- Animals and the Afterlife: True Stories of Our Best Friends' Journey Beyond Death - Book by Kim Sheridan